maria gostrey Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 i'm 23 years old and have recently graduated college. after moving in with my family upon graduation life has come to an end. i cannot get a paid job because i don't currently have the work visa that would legally permit me to work in the u.s. because i don't have a job, i am devoid of a social life. like, i have NO friends. i actually never really had any friends except for my family. but now the siblings i considered close to me have sort of ganged up against me. two of them are two years apart and have become a clique along with their teenage friends and do not include me in their activities. they instead look down at me as some kind of a useless creature who sucks at life. i've been told on many accounts. i've lost respect in their eyes. i don't blame them. they are so set at life. while 2 months have passed since graduation and i've wasted my life. i need to build my self a fun life but i feel so helpless. i'm screwed and doomed. life is passing me by and thoughts of my wasted potential haunt my troubled mind and i cannot fall asleep at night. i'm such a loser. i have made a mess of my life. i have no one to talk to and am so so alone. please. somebody help me.
Sazerac Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 First, you are not alone in the way you feel. The current economic situation has everyone down. I would recommend becoming a volunteer at a local hospital, library, senior center, or working with underprivileged children. Not only would it provide a useful service and help you realize that you are worthy, but it would also provide that needed social link that you are lacking in your life. Volunteers often have access to increased job opportunities through networking. Best of luck to you.
TouchedByViolet Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 Why/how do you have no friends? You are not a complete mess... you did graduate college, that is something to be proud of.
dcdatingdiva Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 You are not a complete mess! I agree with Sazerac, I think you should find somewhere to volunteer and find a purpose and drive. Also, when your visa situation does work out- you will have some great experience to add to your resume. Also, you'll have the opportunity to meet some amazing people who share the same interests as you and will be a little bit more mature than your sibilings and their mean friends... Good luck! Let us know how it works out! xx, Dee
2sure Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 Hey, hey , hold on a minute right there!! What you are doing, what you are not doing, where you are living, and how you are feeling.....is a completely common, natural, and temporary part of many many many lives. Its part of the process of growing up, changing, and just life. In NO WAY does it indicate anything like being a failure. I understand it feels that way, you are feeling let down, feeling like you are losing momentum...I get that. But honest and really...its temporary. Get any job doing anything you can. Save some money, get the visa. Start with that. It only takes baby steps...the rest will follow.
SakenPT Posted July 31, 2010 Posted July 31, 2010 i'm 23 years old and have recently graduated college. after moving in with my family upon graduation life has come to an end. i cannot get a paid job because i don't currently have the work visa that would legally permit me to work in the u.s. because i don't have a job, i am devoid of a social life. like, i have NO friends. i actually never really had any friends except for my family. but now the siblings i considered close to me have sort of ganged up against me. two of them are two years apart and have become a clique along with their teenage friends and do not include me in their activities. they instead look down at me as some kind of a useless creature who sucks at life. i've been told on many accounts. i've lost respect in their eyes. i don't blame them. they are so set at life. while 2 months have passed since graduation and i've wasted my life. i need to build my self a fun life but i feel so helpless. i'm screwed and doomed. life is passing me by and thoughts of my wasted potential haunt my troubled mind and i cannot fall asleep at night. i'm such a loser. i have made a mess of my life. i have no one to talk to and am so so alone. please. somebody help me. Hello there Again, i hate seeing a girl acting like this... Send me a PM if you have msn messenger i would gladly chat with you to see if i can help you, i used to have social problems myself, and thinking that i didn't had any friends, then i grew up and i found out that there's no real friends out there... I have a feeling that you are one of those types that attach to someone really quick and expect them to be loyal and respect you, and then when they backstab you you get depressed and you feel like you were betrayed, at least that's how i was back in the early days... Cheers
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