How do I win her over from another guy

[qinboxmail]

generally if you go direct, go for the crash or burn. Either you escalate things right now, or the friendship is over. Generally this is done physically/emotionally by getting her in the mood and seeing if she wants to go there. You also have to change the nature of the relationship from being like friends, to being like a relationship.

 

If you wanted to go indirect you definitely wouldn't have told her you like her. You would want to keep her wondering how you feel about her, while peaking her interest/attraction/making her work for your attention.

 

If I were you I just wouldn't straight out tell her you like her, unless you are planning on kissing her in under 30 seconds after that statement.

 

edit: Right now it's going to come down to whether you are just good looking enough/have enough value for her to date you. It's definitely BAD she told you about another guy.

 

Also the girls always are the chosers.

 

She was being honest with me.

[zengirl]

It's not that she's leading the other guy. She dated other guys before and they move too quickly into a relationship.

 

She wants to get to know him better by giving herself more time before getting into a relationship.

 

Bingo, get to know him better. You know what: I'd bet $10 (I might be wrong, but just consider it) that she didn't tell him that you exist. You're Plan B, kept around to feed her ego/sanity whilst she likes this other guy who maybe isn't as into her as you are.

 

Maybe he'll drop her, and you can pick up the pieces. That's how all good relationships start, right? (Hint: no.)

 

This just doesn't sound very viable to me. You've already expressed your feelings, yes? There is no winning her. You can wait and stay in the game, but the ball appears to be in her court. Take her out and have some fun, if you like, but she's just told you, "Don't invest emotionally in me." Do yourself a favor and take her advice unless she gives you reason to do otherwise.