Do they ever come back?

[hitbyatruck]

Not that I necessarily want this to happen, nor think it will, but has anyone experienced a walk-away spouse ever returning after an affair/rebound relationship?

 

What do you do if they do?

 

I sometimes find myself romanticizing my ex's personality & our decade-long relationship in the way of recalling the good aspects and disregarding the bad. The idea of how things could or should have been perhaps?

 

Her companionship is missed greatly.

You never miss your water 'til your well runs dry.

[Wilie]

In my situation, yes, although there was no affair involved.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t239188/

 

Thankyou,

[cavedweller]

hitbyatruck,

 

When and if they come back it never is the same and usually does not work out..

 

Why, you ask?

 

Because, the trust has been broken.

[hitbyatruck]

Yeah, I can't imagine the compromised emotions you might feel if a WS did return. I am a VERY forgiving person - too much so in the past - and very patient, but still battling some lingering feelings after 4 months.

 

I had a revelation just before though:

 

After 3, 5, 7, 10 (in my case) or more years, you become addicted to the comfort a LTR brings. You can be stting around at night, just relaxing, watching TV, web surfing, reading a book or whatever, and just the knowledge that your partner is "just over there" is comforting, and as I have since discovered, addictive.

[tojaz]

HBT, I've read a lot of threads here, and yes sometimes they come back. The catch is that they never come back the same as when they left, just as cavedweller says, trust is broken and it takes an awful lot of hard work to retrieve that. Many times though, what you get back isn't something you would want. In many cases they do not see the errors that took place, have not grown. In other words, they come back for the wrong reasons. Falling under the category of be careful of what you wish for!!!!

 

There are plenty of threads of WAS's coming back here on LS with both good and bad outcomes. I can't speak first hand because I was never given that opportunity, but just like anything else, if it should happen to you , it will be what the two of you make it.

 

TOJAZ

[habs53]

I would have to agree with the trust thing as well. I personally cannot picture wanting my ex back because of trust.

[pinkp]

In my experience when WS came back he was still the same. And left again not long after he returned. This went on for two years, I think in total it was about 5 or 6 times. This last time he stayed for 30 days and in those 30 days I allowed his presence to completely ruin everything. He did some great damage.

 

I wish you luck though, whatever your situation. It's tough.