rocbrown Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 My wife has emotionally cheated on me. We have been going through a lot and went to our first therapy session last night. Things went well and we will probably work through it but I seriously don't remember the last time we had sex. Other than masturbation, which is a wonderful thing, are there any suggestions as to how to get her to get interested in sex again. The issues for her are her mother died a year ago, she is approaching menopause, and we are just starting to work on our broken relationship. I need a release other than jacking off. ?????????
candymoon Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 Hey Roc and sorry you are going through this, but good for you for trying to work through your wife's EA. Before we address the emotional, it's probably best to tackle the physical. 1. She is approaching menopause. Lots of menopausal women lose their sex drive. Though, some lucky husbands strike gold and their wives go the opposite. So, did the drop in sex drive coincide with the onset of menopause? 2. Is she on any medication for any medical probs, including hormonal BC? I know they dont prescribe those for menopause anymore, but BC pills can lower sex drive. Even tho she is peri-menopausal, she probably has not stopped taking BC yet if she was on them. What about other meds like Blood Pressure meds? Antidepressants? It would just help to know if there's something physical besides the emotional problems you two are, unfortunately, dealing with right now.
young&inlove Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 Have you tried? I know when my husband is upset & likewise for me as well, I am not in the mood. When one is frustrated or of that nature, we are quite and keep to ourselves. Have you tried to bring sex into your marriage? Without sex a marriage is hard. Are you for sure that she only had an EA and there wasn’t sex involved?
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