freckles3131 Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 We have a Jack and Jill party this Saturday. We haven't seen on another for 3months. He is in a rebound relationship (3 weeks after we broke up after a 5 year relationship) He broke it off. I'm going to the party with a group of friends. I've told them no learing, whispering, staring, comments about him/them. That I want to go, be strong, have fun and just be myself. Gotta say...I'm a bit nervous. Mixed feelings about him being there with the new gal. I feel strong, but what do I say to him or them? Ignore? Just walk up and say hello, how are you? What if he is standing there with her, do I say, "you must be jaime?" Or...
DenverBachelor Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 Gotta say...I'm a bit nervous. Mixed feelings about him being there with the new gal. I feel strong, but what do I say to him or them? Ignore? Just walk up and say hello, how are you? What if he is standing there with her, do I say, "you must be jaime?" Or... Why are you going to a party that you know he'll be at along with his current fling? Do you enjoy making yourself feel like ****? There is no reason to go to any place that he is, let alone a place where you KNOW he'll be. It's bad enough to run into an ex accidentally. There will be plenty more parties to come. I'd really re-evaluate why you want to go because I can guarantee you that everything you do will be influenced by his presence (one way or the other).
Author freckles3131 Posted July 29, 2010 Author Posted July 29, 2010 Our mutual friends are getting married. I'm helping with the party and both of us are also invited to the wedding...
DenverBachelor Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 Our mutual friends are getting married. I'm helping with the party and both of us are also invited to the wedding... That's the reason why you're going, but do you think it overpowers the reason why you shouldn't? Good luck if you do decide to go. Three months isn't that far out of a relationship -- at least not enough to have feelings of indifference.
bonpaw2008 Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 If you have to go to the party, hang with your friends, DO NOT make initial contact with him (them) and any contact that you have to have should be short, to the point, and terminated by you. Just stay away from them as much as possible. DO NOT validate this new girl by admitting you know her name, etc. That is exactly what he wants, your attention, even if it is negative, to make him feel that you still want him. Also, remember to have an escape plan so that you can get out fast if you are freaking out. Drive yourself, etc.
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