Random Contact From MM After 15 Months Of Being Off The Radar

[Silly_Girl]

HB, I think before you act you have to ask yourself WHY??? Why do you want to hear anything from this man? You're happy, right? You're complete in your life as you are?

 

Fast forward a week or two - and xMM had a thousand, or a million reasons for treating you like trash. So what??? Changes nothing in your life.

 

And fast forward and you find out he has NO reasons for what he did. Still, nothing changes and you're still you and still living a life that fulfills you.

 

I think you're wasting your time and setting the boundary now will hopefully make him more likely to stay away in future. As he damn well should.

[whichwayisup]

xMM couldn't have contacted me at a worse time

 

Yet you made it worse by responding to him. Especially after so long and being in NC, moving on with your life with someone else.. You allowed exMM to get to you, to open up wounds that were healing.

 

Forget exMM and cut him out of your life. What he did, didn't do, say or not say SHOULD be in the past and shouldn't matter anymore, even MORE SO since you're engaged.

[whichwayisup]

Do you also know, by responding to him, you gave exMM a HUGE ego feed? For him to know that he's still on your mind, you STILL have questions that need to be answered, that need for closure after so long, made him go on a power trip.

 

Keep that in mind when he comes fishing again in the future. And he will because you immediately responded to him after 15 months.

[Mimolicious]

Humans hate any form or rejection or loss of control. This guy rejected you over and over and over, making you an "addict" for his acceptance.

Once you're deep into the need for validation, one can lie, cheat, abuse etc and it's all accepted as long as the feeling of rejection is gone away.

 

He rejected you and you wanted to reply in order to feel validated.

 

No amount of contact, answers or "love" from this jerk will quench your need for his validation.

Walk away and get your closure by loving yourself.

 

Good luck

 

I agree but I rather say "humans LOVE" rejection. Keeps them coming back. They say: "Rejection is the greatest aphrodisiac".

[2sure]

You have to stop right now even entertaining the possibility that speaking with him will answer any questions or give you any closure.

 

He is full of nonsense. He makes things up. Outrageous things. You know this. What he says has absolutely nothing to do with what he does, where he is, who he is with, or what is happening.

 

I am concerned for you because this has been made clear to you over and over again throughout the course of years...yet you still think communicating with him will get you some truth.