whoisthisguy Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 So guys, i already posted what happend with me amd my ex gf. Just to be clear. Dated for 26 months, live togather for 14 months. It was really serius. We were happy, and have a lot in common. In the last few months i got scared of how serious it gets, and i started to behave really insecure, she tried everything to make things work. I just wasnt myself that time, She broke up with me. Told me she still loves me but its just not working (i know she do , i can tell is), and leave him alone for a while. I didnt contacted her for 4 weeks. On the 5. week i called her but she didnt picked up the phone. I just gave her the time and space she needs. Now on week 6. i tried to call her again, but no response still. I know she just dont picks it up coz she still cant handle to talk with me, i know we were really in big love, and she was thinkin about our future all the time when we were togather. I dont know what to do? let her have more time? I just want to know what going on with her. I couldn't even tell her that in this 1-2 month i made the decision , and i know it now that she is the most important thing in my life, and i'm sure now that i want her. She is really in pain now, just like me, and afraid of being hurt again i think.
spyyder Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 (edited) Excellent move on going NC for a month after the breakup. Most of us (myself included) have chased our ex's for weeks and months which actually drove them away. So far, your on a perfect track to getting her back...don't mess it up! She needs more time. It sounds like there is a good chance you can get her back, but right now she needs more time. If I were you, wait a few more weeks to make it 2 months of NC since you broke up. THEN call her, if she still doesn't pick up then write her a hand written letter and post it to her. In the letter, explain your mistake, that you understand her, etc. Don't be overly nice, seem depressed or needy as this will turn her off. Also don't try to justify your actions/decisions too much, and make sure you say 'I feel' a lot rather than 'I think' or 'I know'. Make it seem like you don't need her, but really want her, and that you made a big mistake with the way you acted which made her leave you. Tell her that you did take her for granted and only realized it when you lost her, that you realize your mistakes and that you want to make everything alright. Mention that even if she doesn't take you back, you'd like to somehow makeup for all the bad you did - this should make her think that you've changed. If she hasn't called you already, call her a week after you send the letter. If she still doesn't pickup, and doesn't call you back in a months time then your going to have to consider the whole thing a life lesson, move on and don't mess up the next great relationship you find yourself in. Good luck bro. Edited July 29, 2010 by spyyder
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