stuckonone Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 Okay, I developed a crush on him at ten years old and fell deeply in love with him at fourteen. I am still in love with him today and though we are close as friends i know he does not feel the same way. I am not a ridiculous romantic and don't wish to be strung on by myself forever but I cannot, cannot, cannot stop loving him. I thought it would happen in time and it still hasn't. He drives me crazy. help me
oldfashiongirlie Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 Are you sure you're not idealizing him?. Cause sometimes we tend to think someone is the perfect guy and most of the times it's just not 100% real. If you love him, but he doesn't love you back, then it's not worth your love for him. That's the beauty of love to find that one person that loves you as much as you love him. Good luck finding "the one". You deserve to experience a real life love.
DreamerGirl27 Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 I think the best thing to do is to cut him out of your life. I have been talking to a guy for about 8, 9 months now, met him almost a year ago, and he has "friend zoned" me. I'm not okay with being his friend. I find it really awkward, weird and backwards that he's friend zoned me, because I thought that was something girls do to guys, but guys most definitely do it to girls. He also told me most of his best friends are girls and thinks guys and girls can be just friends. I thought that in high school, but the older I get, the less and less I talk to my guy "friends" because most of them either like me, or I like them. So, I am about to tell him to please stop contacting me. He IMs me constantly and I haven't even seen him in 2, almost 3 months and first, that's not a friend anyway, that's a facebook IM buddy. Second...I'm not okay being just his friend or his facebook IM buddy, but heaven forbid he should hang out with me, that might make me think he likes me. So, as much as I'm going to hate it...I'm trying my best to work up the courage to just ask him to please stop contacting me and that I'll contact him if or when I'm okay being just friends. At some point, you have to take your power back. He has been depressing me for 6 months now since he told me he doesn't like me like that and I can't keep going on being depressed and crying over him all the time. Also...you'll never be able to move on and find another guy if you're constantly hung up on one guy that doesn't want you. It may even take a long time for you to move on after you stop talking to him. But it's the only way and frankly, the only choice you and I both have. I hope this helps and I know it sucks to hear, but like I said...you can't give all your power to someone else and at some point, you need to take your power back.
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