JadedHeart Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 It's still summer and the semester doesn't start until another few weeks. I've been using this time to date around and stuff. I've been guilty of this back in my AFC days, but taking a girl to dinner on your first date is a big NO NO. It should be an action/event date. That way she shares an experience with you and would be more inclined to go on a 2nd date. You don't want to take her to a boring interview type date. So here are some first dates that I've had if anyone wants to use them. #1). I took her to a Japanese supermarket, walked around she seemed really interested in all the Japanese hair care products, candies, drinks, etc... I wandered off and returned with some raw slabs of fresh salmon and tuna. I asked her if she wanted to come over and help me make some sushi. That was pretty fun... #2). Wine bars, what an awesome place to take a first date. There's this one place in my city where the walls are painted a crimson red, nice paintings, classy black leather couches. Dimly lit, add some nice h'or derves.. Great place to get to know her, where she came from, all that good stuff. #3). I took her through a 2 mile forest trail. We saw rabbits, picked berries, rays of sun light peaking through the foliage. Walking up hills, going over wooden bridges, crossing rivers, being attuned with nature was peaceful. Lots of bugs, if she sees a spider or something scary great place to escalate kino! Or helping her through a patch of tree trunks protruding from the ground. If she gets tired you can piggy back her too. #4). Playing racquetball at the gym, going to a tennis court, or playing badminton. I don't play tennis but the first and third I've done. Make it fun, say loser buys smoothies. No mercy just smack that ball as hard as you can, she loses and you get a free smoothie. You can use that time to build rapport and comfort. #5). I've tried to take a girl sky diving, needless to say there was no second date. The first date didn't happen either just remember not to be too adventurous haha. Sometimes I'll get spirited away! Those are just to name a few. The really good ones I don't share, you'll have to date me to find out I'd love to hear some other suggestions though!
zengirl Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 A good idea in general, but #1). I took her to a Japanese supermarket, walked around she seemed really interested in all the Japanese hair care products, candies, drinks, etc... I wandered off and returned with some raw slabs of fresh salmon and tuna. I asked her if she wanted to come over and help me make some sushi. That was pretty fun... I'm surprised that one wnet well! Even as a big Japan-freak, this one freaks me out. Any guy that asks me to his house on the first date is going to creep me out a bit. (Glad it worked for you.) Guess it depends where I met him, though. Also, I would just think the guy was a little too odd. That seems like more a good 3rd or 4th date, with the "plan" to make some sushi. To me. #2). Wine bars, what an awesome place to take a first date. There's this one place in my city where the walls are painted a crimson red, nice paintings, classy black leather couches. Dimly lit, add some nice h'or derves.. Great place to get to know her, where she came from, all that good stuff. #3). I took her through a 2 mile forest trail. We saw rabbits, picked berries, rays of sun light peaking through the foliage. Walking up hills, going over wooden bridges, crossing rivers, being attuned with nature was peaceful. Lots of bugs, if she sees a spider or something scary great place to escalate kino! Or helping her through a patch of tree trunks protruding from the ground. If she gets tired you can piggy back her too. These two are pretty good, whimsical, fun ideas. In the same vein as wine bars, where I'm from there are some indie coffee/wine/beer places that are a little cheaper/more casual than the traditional wine bar/tappas but still hip. Maybe a bit of a hipster scene, but not disgustingly so (if you're on the younger side). That's always been my favorite type of a place for a guy to suggest a first meeting. We can grab tea/coffee/wine/bear, maybe a light snack, and just chill. First dates should generally have an early exit plan, I think, if it's not going swimmingly. Most first dates should be whimsical and short, IMO.
Author JadedHeart Posted July 28, 2010 Author Posted July 28, 2010 Well you would ask her in a half jokingly sort of tone. If she says sure, then great! You'll have a lot of fun making sushi together. If she asks are you serious?! You can either say you were joking or respond with a humorous retort such as... "You're absolutely right, how could we make sushi at my house without the ginger!" I do agree first dates should be short and sweet. As far as exit strategies, you can always say you're going to bring your friend along with you. That way if things go south you can say my friend has to leave so we have to go. If things go good then your friend might have something urgent she has to take care of by herself. Haaa haaa just kidding, don't do that. Men hate it when you bring a friend along on a first date. I've had this happen a few times, now if they even dare to ask me that, I'll just cancel the date and move on.
somedude81 Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 How is going on a bike ride? Tomorrow I'm planning on going on a ride with a girl on the beach path. We'll either riding to the jetty or go the other way to where there is restaurants and an arcade.
zengirl Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 Well you would ask her in a half jokingly sort of tone. If she says sure, then great! You'll have a lot of fun making sushi together. If she asks are you serious?! You can either say you were joking or respond with a humorous retort such as... "You're absolutely right, how could we make sushi at my house without the ginger!" I would find that even creepier, if a guy tried to play it off with a date. I notice you said "Would" Now, I'm confused. I thought these were dates you went on. I do agree first dates should be short and sweet. As far as exit strategies, you can always say you're going to bring your friend along with you. That way if things go south you can say my friend has to leave so we have to go. If things go good then your friend might have something urgent she has to take care of by herself. Haaa haaa just kidding, don't do that. Men hate it when you bring a friend along on a first date. I've had this happen a few times, now if they even dare to ask me that, I'll just cancel the date and move on. Yeah, nobody should ever bring friends to a date. (Though Korean girls sometimes do this --- not even as a getaway; they sometimes just bring friends along. ) I usually stick to the tea/wine/coffee/beer scenario. Low buy-in, quick, and you can always add to it later. It's what I try to steer a guy to, unless I know him well. You leave the idea that you might have something to do after halfway open (Everybody knows you don't) and see if you like each other. If not, no muss, no fuss. . . away you go.
Author JadedHeart Posted July 28, 2010 Author Posted July 28, 2010 Bike ride is an awesome idea, I did that once. I used to be into road biking a lot as well. By would I mean that's what someone else would do. Yes these are all dates I've done. By the way, I know all too well with the hanguk yuh jahs. Hanguk saram im ni da?
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