psfrederick Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 Greetings to every one, I started a relationship with my girlfriend year 2005, in fact she was the one who showed her interest in me by then, before knowing her I was in a relationship with a lady in the country where I was living before, I left this country for some reasons with the hope of returning back one day, when I got to my recent country of residence, I spent over 1 year without any sexual intercourse because my mind was still with the lady I left in the country where I was living before, unfortunately for me the lady I left in my former country of residence got pregnant for another guy, to cut every thing short I started going out with my recent girlfriend, she was also dating a guy by then, she told me every thing about her relationship with the guy and that she really don't love the guy for so many reasons that she explained to me. She quit her ex-boyfriend, we started going out, our love was very serious, after about 2 years she packed into my apartment, our love continue to grow daily, but there are so many things that she is not doing to me that my ex-girlfriend is does, like kissing me without me asking, like putting her head on my chest, like asking me for sex, my ex-girlfriend does all this but my recent girl friend DON'T, so I started thinking maybe she don't like me, I have proposed to her, she agreed to be my wife, but I am still having DOUBTS, we have been living together now for almost 3 years, there is no day she will ask me for SEX, I am the one that always ask, though any time I want sex she gives me, in the beginning she was complaining but now I have sex with her whenever I like but I can see that her love for me is cold, I have too much doubt, I am planning of marrying her as soon as possible but I am afraid, if I didn't tell her that I love her she will not tell me she loves me, she call others daddy, darling, sweetheart BUT me NO, I have so many doubts, does any one have idea of what I need to doo? I want to know if she really loves me, I have talk with her several times about this issue but no changes. I will appreciate any advise. Thanks
cookie2 Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 You have to ask for sex? Like literally come out and ask her? You're doing it wrong, dude. People express their love in many different ways. Some (like yourself) by being physically intimate, initiating sex, saying you love her, etc. Other people do different things such as keep a tidy house, make the dinner, organise a social life, or handle all the finances. The problem is, people often look for the same kind of things in the love they receive. So to you, you don't know if she loves you, because she is not physically forthcoming. But to her, maybe she thinks you don't love her because you don't clean the dishes? It's just an example to show what I mean. You are looking for her to return your love in the same way that you give it. Does she return it in other ways? Plus some women just prefer the man to initiate sex. Not all women are the same, don't think that just because your ex did it then she will too.
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