Sonolumino Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 It's been one week since my break-up. I'm going to a friend's birthday party and she is sure to attend. I was wondering, does anyone have any advice for me on how to act?
Username37 Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 It's been one week since my break-up. I'm going to a friend's birthday party and she is sure to attend. I was wondering, does anyone have any advice for me on how to act? Okay. Listen to me. Don't make the mistake I did. Get your emotions together. If you see her. ACT happy and over the break up and stuff like that. If you're an emotional wreak, then that won't do you any good. It will push her farther away and it will also make the party awkward. Also, ignore her and stick with your friends. Show her that you don't need her to have fun. If you do see her and talk to her, keep it light and YOU end the conversation. Don't cling to her. Good luck man and party hard!
Maverick1983 Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 I agree with the previous poster.Put on a brave face and have a good time without trying to rub it in her face which is important.Don't overcrowd her and remember to speak positively about how you are doing and be careful about confronting her when there's drink involved.You want her to see that you are in a good place and that you are not a nervous wreck after the break up.Best of luck
Maverick1983 Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 I agree with the previous poster.Put on a brave face and have a good time without trying to rub it in her face which is important.Don't overcrowd her and remember to speak positively about how you are doing and be careful about confronting her when there's drink involved.You want her to see that you are in a good place and that you are not a nervous wreck after the break up.Best of luck
archivist Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 Also don't talk about the break up or the past unless they mention it. If they do don't start pouring your heart out, this is not the time of place to be doing it. You got to man up, "fake it till you make it" as some say. Do not start getting all jealous either when you see her talking to other guys either. Be strong!
spriggig Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 Great advice, put on a brave face. BUT, it's only been a week, how to put on a brave face? Prepare and practice. Pre-visualize as clearly as you can events you expect to take place. Walk through the entire party in your mind and imagine what you'll do WHEN you contact her. Go over and over it until it feels right and you can handle the situation. Get through these emotions now, in you imagination so you can handle them better when the time comes. It also helps to imagine ridiculous situations that will almost certainly never happen, you'll feel prepared for anything then. Even after all the preparation, you'll be vulnerable, so don't seek out interaction with her if you feel at all uncertain.
bonpaw2008 Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 Even after all the preparation, you'll be vulnerable, so don't seek out interaction with her if you feel at all uncertain. And be sure to have an escape plan if things get too difficult for you. Make sure you drive yourself, etc. That will make you feel more confident that you can leave when you want and can get out of the situation if need be. YOU CAN DO IT!
davisc123 Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 I know its hard because you will probably feel like you want to converse with her but I would just completely blank her. Not in an obvious 'Look at me giving you the cold shoulder' way just act as if she isn't there, try to enjoy yourself and avoid eye contact. If you do get yourself in a situation where you can't avoid talking, I would just politely say hi and move away. Don't worry about etiquette or anything just concentrate on yourself. I was in a situation like this not long after the breakup, and I had a full blown conversation with my ex. It was like old times, there was definitely something between us and yet she still left at the end of the night and never looked back. Afterwards I was drunk and depressed, analysing it all in my mind. The bottom line is I should just have ignored her it would have saved me a lot of heartache.
Author Sonolumino Posted July 29, 2010 Author Posted July 29, 2010 Thanks for the advice everyone. I'm going to do my best to act happy, not go out of my way to talk to her, and if there has to be conversation I'll be happy and end it quickly. I'm looking to stay on good terms with her even though she shattered my heart.
Username37 Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 Thanks for the advice everyone. I'm going to do my best to act happy, not go out of my way to talk to her, and if there has to be conversation I'll be happy and end it quickly. I'm looking to stay on good terms with her even though she shattered my heart. Atta boy! Show her what she lost!
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