DJILLUSION Posted February 10, 2004 Posted February 10, 2004 IF YOU ALL HAVE READ MY OTHER POST (IS THERE HOPE) THEN YOU KNOW MY SITUATION A LITTLE. I WAS JUST WONDERING IF CHILDREN EVER BRING A COUPLE BACK TOGETHER? WE HAVE A 21/2 YEAR OLD SON THAT LOVES US BOTH AND I HATE TO SEE HIM GO THREW THIS. SHE HAS THE THE IDEA THAT A COUPLE SHOULD NOT BE TOGETHER IF NOT IN LOVE EVEN WHEN THERE IS A CHILD INVOLVED. I AGREE TO THAT BUT I KNOW SHE DID LOVE ME THEN FOUND A NEW MAN THAT SEEMS TO CARE MORE THAN ME. I LOVE HER AND FEEL THAT WE COULD WORK OUT WHATEVER THE PROBLEMS ARE. I DON'T WANT MY SON GROWING UP WITHOUT BOTH PARENTS. I'AM THERE FOR MY SON THE BEST I CAN BUT I ALREADY SEE HE IS CONFUSED. SHE IS A STRONG MINDED WOMEN AND NOW SHE HAS A TOTALLY DIFFERENT ATTITUDE THAN WHEN SHE WAS WITH ME. DO YOU THINK ONCE SHE SEES THAT MY SON LOVES ME SHE WILL COME BACK AND WANT TO WORK THIS OUT? SHE IS SO FREE SPIRITED NOW AND I FEEL SHE IS HURTING OUR SON. SHE ONLY SEES HIM ON THE WEEKENDS AND LEAVES HIM WITH HER PARENTS DURING THE WEEK. SHE WILL NOT LET ME WATCH HIM DURING THE WEEK AND THAT HURTS.
SoleMate Posted February 10, 2004 Posted February 10, 2004 First of all, my sympathies. Second, please hit the CAPS LOCK key - over there on the left, see it? Third, yes, children can sometimes provide a reason to stay together. However, they don't always work as marital adhesive. Please see <URL removed> re the possibilities of rebuilding the happiness and enjoyment that presumably brought you together in the first place. Did she ever doubt that your son loves you? What split you two up, and why don't you have custody?
Author DJILLUSION Posted February 10, 2004 Author Posted February 10, 2004 Yes she did doubt that I love my son because he spent alot of time with my parents while we worked. He wasn't home with ether of us alot. We broke up because I was hard to talk to and there was alittle abuse and control. I never hit her but I did push her a couple times. My son did see us fight once and I know it hurt him and her alot. I dont have custody because I was not put on the birth paper because we where not married and in WIS. that is the only way it is done in wis.. I go to counsling every week to help myself and my son. I seen my son for the first time in over 2 months Sunday and he misses me alot. We shared alot while she was at work and I know he is confussed.
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