Lovelybird Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 A friend's email triggered me to ask this question, it seems that men love the woman most who hurt them most or the one who is most hard to get, men may not admit it openly, but deep down in men's heart, this is kind of truth. Opinions? or what kind of woman you loved most?
Raderick Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 A friend's email triggered me to ask this question, it seems that men love the woman most who hurt them most or the one who is most hard to get, men may not admit it openly, but deep down in men's heart, this is kind of truth. Opinions? or what kind of woman you loved most? I believe ultimately that love is eternal. If it's not that, it's merely lust. In my three relationships, I've been cheated on twice, and the other was an evangelical who dumped me on Christmas Day. My opinion is that if they loved me as they say they did, they wouldn't have done what they did. To answer your opinion, the same could go with women who love men. It depends all on the situation.
Pfiend101 Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 The women I have cared for the most have hurt me the most. My people picker has been broken in my relationships as of late it seems. It is frustrating at times. People typically want what they cant have.
Cracker Jack Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 For me, yes. Can't speak for other men, tho. Ergh...well, she was my best friend for awhile. Loved her before our relationship, so the relationship only amplified it. Long story short, she ended up hurting me badly--for a POS ex at that. Changed my outlook on relationships in the process, too.
Pfiend101 Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 For me, yes. Can't speak for other men, tho. Ergh...well, she was my best friend for awhile. Loved her before our relationship, so the relationship only amplified it. Long story short, she ended up hurting me badly--for a POS ex at that. Changed my outlook on relationships in the process, too. Same story except I was a rebound. Had me fooled.
carhill Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 The women I've loved the most have taught me the most and for that I'm eternally grateful. I'll likely bury one of them this year. The others will hopefully live out their lives in a happy and fulfilling way. Life is about new beginnings. Another page turns. The cool thing about love is it is a renewable resource. Sometimes it hurts, yes, but IMO, without some pain, there could never be joy.
Sanman Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 The women I loved the most have hurt me the most in the sense that losing them hurt the most. Did they treat me the worst? No, but I didn't really care for those that did early on. Then again, if they didn't hurt me in some way, I would still be with them.
Untouchable_Fire Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 A friend's email triggered me to ask this question, it seems that men love the woman most who hurt them most or the one who is most hard to get, men may not admit it openly, but deep down in men's heart, this is kind of truth. Opinions? or what kind of woman you loved most? The woman I love the most right now has hurt me the least. I'm not sure I can love someone that hurt me. I get angry... then later apathetic.
Engadget Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 Yes and I hurt her too, we both messed up royally and we couldn't get back to the love we had for each other. It just became resentment and disappointment on both sides and she met someone else. I forgive her now for everything that happened even though I don't really forgive myself, but we both can't be together regardless.
Enchanted Girl Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 This seems kind of obvious to me, for both genders. Not because of what you are thinking, but because someone that you don't love that much can't really hurt you that much. My current boyfriend, I've loved him more than I've loved any other man in my life, and yes, he has hurt me more than any other man in my life. It comes with giving someone your whole heart. The more you love, the more vulnerable you are with them, the deeper your feelings, the worse it hurts when you fight or things go bad.
Diezel Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 You can only be hurt by those you've left yourselves to be most vulnerable to. Doesn't matter your gender, this is the reality for all people.
Author Lovelybird Posted July 29, 2010 Author Posted July 29, 2010 Maybe I should say it more clear in my OP, it is hurt that caused more love? But you answered my question anyway, thanks for all your input.
Author Lovelybird Posted July 29, 2010 Author Posted July 29, 2010 Oh, by the way, my friend is totally screwed by a woman, but he loves her very much, now he is in deep depression because he is not sure of her love and same time he made lots of sacrifices for her. Maybe she is the perfect match for him?
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