What do you make of this affair??

[wife25]

I have gathered a lot of information on my husband's mistress, after finding all their emails and even overhearing a phone conversation, and his affair with her makes LESS sense by the minute:

 

- The affair started when SHE came on to him, pretending to be somebody else, on Facebook

 

- When he came on to "her", she disclosed that she was a former co-worker. He kept engaging her in sex talk and they agreed to meet for sex only (she mentioned it)

 

- He told her that he only wanted bjs when he found out who she was

 

- She agreed. They kept it up for 2 months, over 400 emails, didn't meet for sex, he stopped responding

 

- 4 months later, he contacted her. She replied coldly, nothing happened

 

- 3 months after that, again he contacted her. Again she shot him down

 

- 3 months after that, she visited the office and he came on to her in his office, trying to get her to have sex. She said no.

 

- Shortly after, she contacted him to meet for sex (since they were "back together"), he kept up emails for a couple of weeks, then dropped her again

 

- 2 months after that, he emailed her asking her to meet. She agreed. They had sex for the first time.

 

- He wouldn't set another date after a week, so she broke up with him

 

- 2 months after that, she visited the office again. He again came on to her in his office, hanging up the phone on me to talk to her, and they had sex again.

 

- 2 weeks after that, he called her from our home because she wanted to talk and was complaining that they should break up if he doesn't have the time to see her. He said he agreed if that was best for her, but asked her to continue the conversation when he gets back from his trip - so he didn't want to break up. I overhead this from our extension, and he was VERY gentle to her, even his tone of voice was different.

 

Is he just using her for sex? Does asking her for bjs only, mean that he's not attracted to her physically (she's bigger than women he usually finds attractive)? Or is he emotionally attached?

[LucreziaBorgia]

Did any of the answers on the other threads dealing with this under different screen names not prove to be helpful? I'm not sure how asking the same questions over and over with different screen names and getting the same answers over and over is going to help. Do you want different answers? What answers do you want to hear?

[Maggotface]

Humm.. this looks familiar. Pretty sure your husband isnt the one having the affair. Like Borgia said, repeating the same post over and over wont get you the responses you want.

[Dexter Morgan]

ok, here you are again, under a different name, telling the same story that is your story, as if it is someone elses.

 

troll

[MyNameIsJane]

I'm really confused based on everyone else's responses - so I am going to assume you are actually the other woman... in which case, I'm pretty sure he is just using you for sex and isn't interested in anything emotional.