Killashandra Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 Full story has been posted already. I lurk mainly on this forum. we talk and see each other regularly, there was no hope of NC because of 5 children and a business. he phones me daily, we text daily. It's a gentle game of push and pull. Sometimes I push a little and he pulls. We are taking things slow very slow, we want to do this right, the children are not quite top priority in this, we are. He announced he wants to come home. I said slowly does it so does he. His licence renewed at our address, his mail comes here. He has started giving more money over and paying for more. Items are coming back to the house. He comes for tea a couple of times a week. The kids stay with him on weekends. he felt unloved, because of certain things I did. I had no clue. Easy enough to change. Has changed now. I feel there is a trust issue with me for him. Not so easy to overcome but getting there. When he comes home it has to be the right time for both of us. No point in rushing it even if it's what you want. He is showing interest in the house, finishing jobs around the place, mowing, gardening etc. Discussing the renovations we wanted to complete. Maybe i was the backup plan? Maybe he just needed the time apart to really know how he felt? Chances are I'll never know but I don't really care. I don't dwell on this knowing him as I do. So many stress factors led him to walking out and these factors had to be dealt with over time so that they don't crop up again. He is affectionate, and finds me desirable. I have found myself again, hobbies I enjoy, going out with friends, doing things, looking after myself. Emotions still rise up and i feel hurt that it happened, that I couldn't stop it. But good things come out of bad. I am stronger and even if it should happen (very unlikely) that he doesn't come home I will cope, survive and thrive.
jsa100100 Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 good for you! hope it works out. Tell us how it goes.
spriggig Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 Positive signs of reconciliation! Wow! Thank you. I suggest caution (doing that) and full disclosure, meaning don't gloss anything over.
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