Thorgs Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 yeah thats exactly what I did only a few weeks later did i realise that I cant change it.... Oh and in one of my drunken posts i said her name... is she did ever come on here she would know me instantly too... hehehehehehehe... Yeah, there should be a way to change usernames...like for a small fee or something. This is ridiculous. We're supposed to read all the small print when we are in such a bad state of mind
SpanksTheMonkey Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 ok i am now starting to believe that my ex has some sort of chip implanted in my head that shows her sends her some signal every time i seem to take a step forward... either that or she is here on LS and readin everything I am writing and wants revenge..... i just received a txt msg from her, of her pet, in a string of pearls, on her bed... What could it mean, should i reply, does she want me back, TBH right now I dont have the mental capacity to deal with it and by tomorrow I prob wont even care cos the little bugger almost bit my pecker off... Shes a whack job get a new # and be totally done with it poor dog..
Thorgs Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 Why would you want to show her that you are still funny? Why would you want to show her ANYTHING? Yeah it is funny, I laughed at that pic! But what's going to happen when you get the reply "haha you're funny lets meet up for a coffee sometime"? To show her she's the one who is missing out, not him. Then when that question comes up say yes...then cancel at the last minute. Still a man of mystery
Author smk Posted July 27, 2010 Author Posted July 27, 2010 "haha you're funny lets meet up for a coffee sometime"? thats the scary bit - it would give me false hope - if she really has something to say then her she needs to do it upfront... simple as that...
Thorgs Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 thats the scary bit - it would give me false hope - if she really has something to say then her she needs to do it upfront... simple as that... Agreed. Sorry for giving bad advice. Just trying to light the mood. Maybe I'm at a point where I am finally realizing there is no more hope with rekindling anything and it's my way of coping.
Circular Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 It's too soon for the pig-reply. You should keep the picture of the pig. Then in 9 months, once you've moved on and are dating another much better and awesome chick. Send it to her. It'll totally mess with her mind.
Author smk Posted July 27, 2010 Author Posted July 27, 2010 Agreed. Sorry for giving bad advice. Just trying to light the mood. Maybe I'm at a point where I am finally realizing there is no more hope with rekindling anything and it's my way of coping. there is no such thing as good advice or bad advice, I like seeing everyones perspective... for me i am realising that even the slightest of contact seems to bring me down, its best for me to just ignore it... at least for now.. I have reached this point where I am slowly taking her off the pedestal, and am beggining to accept to a certain extent that i do need to let go and let destiny and fate do their bit... if its meant to be it will and if not then c'est la vie...
AlwaysConflicted Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 This girl is going to be very special for the rest of your life. At some point you will move on enough to find a new love, but you will always remember this girl. Don't play games with her head, don't send silly pictures, don't yell at her...don't be negative at all. This relationship didn't work out, but at the end of your life all you're left with are your memories. Keep this one special.
Treasa Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 If you were in a healthy place, I'd tell you to text back, "Wow, that's a great picture of you! Did you change your hair?"
spriggig Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 This girl is going to be very special for the rest of your life. At some point you will move on enough to find a new love, but you will always remember this girl. Don't play games with her head, don't send silly pictures, don't yell at her...don't be negative at all. This relationship didn't work out, but at the end of your life all you're left with are your memories. Keep this one special. My mom died of Alzheimer's two years ago at age 80. Our minds are made of memories, the present being, and thoughts of an uncertain future. I think the reason most of us were happier when we were younger is simply that we hadn't made so many mistakes--didn't have as much baggage. BUT, apparently as we get older we learn to let go and live more in the present--not worry so much. And, that helps us be happier, too. My mom got to live the last year of her life as a young woman again. As hard as that was for the rest of her family, she seemed very happy. It was only the present that frustrated her. So, I guess my response here is that all you have at any time in your life is your memories, not only at the end of your life. So, regret the things that you did, not the things you didn't do, but always be true to yourself.
Author smk Posted July 28, 2010 Author Posted July 28, 2010 This girl is going to be very special for the rest of your life. At some point you will move on enough to find a new love, but you will always remember this girl. Don't play games with her head, don't send silly pictures, don't yell at her...don't be negative at all. This relationship didn't work out, but at the end of your life all you're left with are your memories. Keep this one special. Yeah I realised that the first time I met her 3 years ago. I can still recall with vivid detail each moment we spent together going back to that first summers Sunday in 2007. We didn’t really get to know each other or together for another 2.5 years, and we only met 4 times between that first meeting and till when we got together, but that first instant I met her, I just felt a connection, a bond or some sort. She is the one who defined gave me one of the most important things in life – the ability to love someone and for that I will always be thankful to her. I know there are times in anger when I may have made her look like an evil b***h – but she isn’t – given had a choice to make and she made it – unfortunately at the moment she made the choice it didn’t include me in her future, but I can never change the fact that at one point she played a very important role in my life. I can choose to focus on the last 3 weeks of our relationship (the bad times) or the previous 6 months (the happy time) and in all honesty the happy time outweigh the bad times. I am can choose to bitter and cynical but whats the point? Why fill my head with negative memories that will only end up making me a bitter person, when I can fill it with good memories that when I look back upon will bring a smile to our faces. I am not taking the dumpers side here, but yeah they did leave us, yes they made a choice that in our eyes was the biggest mistake of their life, but surely 98% of them didn’t just wake up one morning and decide to throw it all away, there are always factors that contribute to each and every decision made in our lives, and lets be honest how many time have we been in a situation where even though we didn’t agree with the outcome, we still had to make that choice and live with it. I guess what I am saying here is that we will move on from this pain and hurt, for some it will be swift, for others it may takes years, but eventually we will move on, and sooner or later we will meet someone who will choose to spend their time with us (like our exe’s once chose to spend part of their lives with us),. But one day in the distant future when we look back we have the choice to either have happy memories of the times spent with them or we can choose to be bitter about the time lost on them – inevitably the choice will be our own to make. And who knows maybe one day in that distant future they will look back at the choices they make and try to re-evaluate if their choice was right or wrong, and they may try and get in contact, but if we are still bitter and holding onto a grudge, we will only go on to solidify their beliefs that they made the right decision. Again I know this is a touchy subject, but make each memory count is what I am learning to do now… For me she will always be special, she contributed a great deal to defining the person that I wish to become, and as unhappy as I am with her choice, she is the one who made it, and eventually she is the one who will have to live with the outcome. So, I guess my response here is that all you have at any time in your life is your memories, not only at the end of your life. So, regret the things that you did, not the things you didn't do, but always be true to yourself. I couldn’t have worded it better myself – make each memory count because at the end they are all that we have left… PS – I know that sometimes my views on the some of my posts are quite conflicting and I think that’s due to the wide range emotions I am feeling at the moment – one minute its anger, the next it’s a depression, the next denial, and so on…. So I guess what I am saying is that I am not a schizophrenic – just another guy dealing with the motions of heartbreak..
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