smk Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 ok i am now starting to believe that my ex has some sort of chip implanted in my head that shows her sends her some signal every time i seem to take a step forward... either that or she is here on LS and readin everything I am writing and wants revenge..... i just received a txt msg from her, of her pet, in a string of pearls, on her bed... What could it mean, should i reply, does she want me back, TBH right now I dont have the mental capacity to deal with it and by tomorrow I prob wont even care cos the little bugger almost bit my pecker off...
Thorgs Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 ok i am now starting to believe that my ex has some sort of chip implanted in my head that shows her sends her some signal every time i seem to take a step forward... either that or she is here on LS and readin everything I am writing and wants revenge..... i just received a txt msg from her, of her pet, in a string of pearls, on her bed... What could it mean, should i reply, does she want me back, TBH right now I dont have the mental capacity to deal with it and by tomorrow I prob wont even care cos the little bugger almost bit my pecker off... I'd just be like..."which one is the dog?"
Author smk Posted July 27, 2010 Author Posted July 27, 2010 Was there any text with the picture? no text just pic....hehehehe.... she wasnt in the pic... just a pic of the dog on her (our) old bed...
TaraMaiden Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 Ooooh, hold me back.....! "Any chance you could just pi$$ off and leave me alone? I'm not interested in the dog, and I'm not interested in you. But I am finding it increasingly hard to tell the difference. Now quit bugging me about your stupid dog, or anything else for that matter. " ......Is too tempting for words!
Thorgs Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 Ooooh, hold me back.....! "Any chance you could just pi$$ off and leave me alone? I'm not interested in the dog, and I'm not interested in you. But I am finding it increasingly hard to tell the difference. Now quit bugging me about your stupid dog, or anything else for that matter. " ......Is too tempting for words! I'd send something like...."Thanks but I'm not up for nudies of your dog, kthxbye."
Author smk Posted July 27, 2010 Author Posted July 27, 2010 Ooooh, hold me back.....! "Any chance you could just pi$$ off and leave me alone? I'm not interested in the dog, and I'm not interested in you. But I am finding it increasingly hard to tell the difference. Now quit bugging me about your stupid dog, or anything else for that matter. " ......Is too tempting for words! hehehehehe... my motto for the day is "ignorance is Bliss - i am not going to get tempted"... if she really has something meaningfull to say then she knows where to find me - she knows where I live, where I work.... I am no longer intop playing games through txting...
Author smk Posted July 27, 2010 Author Posted July 27, 2010 I'd send something like...."Thanks but I'm not up for nudies of your dog, kthxbye." dude how are you holding up??? did you reply to the txt??? still on NC.... keep it strong.... we are the champs...
Thorgs Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 hehehehehe... my motto for the day is "ignorance is Bliss - i am not going to get tempted"... if she really has something meaningfull to say then she knows where to find me - she knows where I live, where I work.... I am no longer intop playing games through txting... Maybe send something back like..."Error #3234, the device you are trying to reach does not accept SMS."
Thorgs Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 dude how are you holding up??? did you reply to the txt??? still on NC.... keep it strong.... we are the champs... You know, before I went for a walk I sent, "whoops forgot my phone at home today, feel free to send it to my personal email, thanks" (didn't give my email address) She hasn't replied and it's been over an hour and a half. I think she's afraid that if she asks for my email address directly that it'll show that she deleted everything of me out of her life. I guess two can play at this game eh? I'm not counting this as contact since I waited almost 10 hours to reply with nothing in return and I'm not hurting. Thank God I was at work when I got the text and I could blow up for a quick minute to a co-worker before campers started showing up
Author smk Posted July 27, 2010 Author Posted July 27, 2010 Maybe send something back like..."Error #3234, the device you are trying to reach does not accept SMS." thats playing it back into their court... I like having the ball in my court... Maybe I will sit here and play throw it against the wall - not send it back to the other side.... I have always liked the idea of being a mystery and to her I never was - my life was always an open book with her... I never hid any aspect of my life from her...
Thorgs Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 thats playing it back into their court... I like having the ball in my court... Maybe I will sit here and play throw it against the wall - not send it back to the other side.... I have always liked the idea of being a mystery and to her I never was - my life was always an open book with her... I never hid any aspect of my life from her... Yeah, that's how I was too...open and honest. Who would have thought that nice guys really do finish last. I hate that saying with a passion.
Circular Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 This is a classic tactic to try to get a response from you. Think about it, she knows if she says "Whats up?" or "Hows it going?" or uses any other words you're going to ignore her. She's missing the attention and talking to you, so she's thinking "OK, if I send a cute picture..." maybe you'll respond because it's a form of 'sharing' (remember in kindergarten? sharing?). It's a step in the right direction (a move from being selfish). Though, I'd recommend staying NC. Just as a side-note. A tell tale sign of a relationship winding down is that the SO stops or significantly limits sharing, it's a form of distancing and breaking the emotional bond that ties the two people together. When a relationship is doing well and things are good there is a lot of sharing. It's interesting because when we're little we have to be taught how to share, its not a natural or rational construct. Only when we've learned it after awhile we realize that it's the foundation of making peace and building relationships that are critical to our overall social survival. Think about it, it might give you some perspective.
Author smk Posted July 27, 2010 Author Posted July 27, 2010 You know, before I went for a walk I sent, "whoops forgot my phone at home today, feel free to send it to my personal email, thanks" (didn't give my email address) She hasn't replied and it's been over an hour and a half. I think she's afraid that if she asks for my email address directly that it'll show that she deleted everything of me out of her life. I guess two can play at this game eh? I'm not counting this as contact since I waited almost 10 hours to reply with nothing in return and I'm not hurting. Thank God I was at work when I got the text and I could blow up for a quick minute to a co-worker before campers started showing up fair play - so long as you make sure that you stay in control of the situation and arent hurting thats cool... Just make sure you do it for the right reasons... and besides if she deleted everything out of her life then you need to look at the bigger picture and maybe do the same... I know I am not one to talk here, but I know how hard it is, I havent done it either... Just cant bring myself to deleting it... But hey so long as you are fine with it and in control thats all that matters... I dont know why, but it just feels like she is here on LS and has somehow figured my true secret hero identity and is now reading everything I am posting and trying to get back at me... hehehehehe... i have an extremely overactive imagination....LOL
Thorgs Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 **** it, send her this picture back... http://blog.juliaallison.com/Images/Pink%20Pig%20in%20Pearls.jpg
Thorgs Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 fair play - so long as you make sure that you stay in control of the situation and arent hurting thats cool... Just make sure you do it for the right reasons... and besides if she deleted everything out of her life then you need to look at the bigger picture and maybe do the same... I know I am not one to talk here, but I know how hard it is, I havent done it either... Just cant bring myself to deleting it... But hey so long as you are fine with it and in control thats all that matters... I dont know why, but it just feels like she is here on LS and has somehow figured my true secret hero identity and is now reading everything I am posting and trying to get back at me... hehehehehe... i have an extremely overactive imagination....LOL Funny thing is, I deleted everything, FB, email, phone number...so when I got the text this morning, 5 minutes before I start work...I get this text from a number I don't know. So I read it...then I threw my phone on the table and looked at my coworker and was like, What the f***! So I got to blow some steam real quick and it helped.
Author smk Posted July 27, 2010 Author Posted July 27, 2010 This is a classic tactic to try to get a response from you. Think about it, she knows if she says "Whats up?" or "Hows it going?" or uses any other words you're going to ignore her. She's missing the attention and talking to you, so she's thinking "OK, if I send a cute picture..." maybe you'll respond because it's a form of 'sharing' (remember in kindergarten? sharing?). It's a step in the right direction (a move from being selfish). Though, I'd recommend staying NC. Just as a side-note. A tell tale sign of a relationship winding down is that the SO stops or significantly limits sharing, it's a form of distancing and breaking the emotional bond that ties the two people together. When a relationship is doing well and things are good there is a lot of sharing. It's interesting because when we're little we have to be taught how to share, its not a natural or rational construct. Only when we've learned it after awhile we realize that it's the foundation of making peace and building relationships that are critical to our overall social survival. Think about it, it might give you some perspective. Makes perfect sense.... I am maintaining NC and not even tempted to break it. Yeah I know what you mean, towards the end of our relationship she had cut down on the sharing. She did want to move me into the "friend zone" which I made clear without saying the words wouldnt work... lets see how this one pans out.... muhahahahahaha (my evil laugh)
Thorgs Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 Even funnier...today is exactly 1 month. Must be a magic number.
Author smk Posted July 27, 2010 Author Posted July 27, 2010 Funny thing is, I deleted everything, FB, email, phone number...so when I got the text this morning, 5 minutes before I start work...I get this text from a number I don't know. So I read it...then I threw my phone on the table and looked at my coworker and was like, What the f***! So I got to blow some steam real quick and it helped. good man - I say let sleeping dogs lay.... good thing that you got it out of your system quickly and didnt have the time to analyse the situation and let it play mind games with you...
cookie2 Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 You didn't use your initials as a username, did you...? Just as bad as me though, I used the cat's name. If my W came on here she'd know it was me instantly. DOH!
Thorgs Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 good man - I say let sleeping dogs lay.... good thing that you got it out of your system quickly and didnt have the time to analyse the situation and let it play mind games with you... Yes, that is key. If she got me at a weak time...usually in the evening/weekend...then it would be a whole different game. BTW, I still say send her that pic I posted...along with the error message. It'll show her that you as still funny...but then NC her a$$ and she'll be mind****ed
Author smk Posted July 27, 2010 Author Posted July 27, 2010 You didn't use your initials as a username, did you...? Just as bad as me though, I used the cat's name. If my W came on here she'd know it was me instantly. DOH! yeah thats exactly what I did only a few weeks later did i realise that I cant change it.... Oh and in one of my drunken posts i said her name... is she did ever come on here she would know me instantly too... hehehehehehehe...
TaraMaiden Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 good man - I say let sleeping dogs lay.... Especially the ones wearing pearls.... good thing that you got it out of your system quickly and didnt have the time to analyse the situation and let it play mind games with you... Hyper-analysis causes paralysis.... you can tie yourself in absolute knots trying to figure it all out. The bottom line has to be, "who gives a f.....?" Just delete everything.....
cookie2 Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 BTW, I still say send her that pic I posted...along with the error message. It'll show her that you as still funny...but then NC her a$$ and she'll be mind****ed Why would you want to show her that you are still funny? Why would you want to show her ANYTHING? Yeah it is funny, I laughed at that pic! But what's going to happen when you get the reply "haha you're funny lets meet up for a coffee sometime"?
Author smk Posted July 27, 2010 Author Posted July 27, 2010 Yes, that is key. If she got me at a weak time...usually in the evening/weekend...then it would be a whole different game. BTW, I still say send her that pic I posted...along with the error message. It'll show her that you as still funny...but then NC her a$$ and she'll be mind****ed hopefully she doesnt catch you at a weekend... I am going to play on this for a while... but yeah I am contemplating sending her that... thing is I am still at that point where i am not fully sure of whether i am going to still be hoping for a reply or not - and i wont realise until i send it - so am gonna sleep on it and seeing how i feel in the morning do something about it....
Recommended Posts