just_some_guy Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 Humans seem to curiously resistant to the idea of turning friends into lovers, yet we often struggle for years without success trying to turn our lovers into our friends.
Joe10 Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 (edited) Men and women are not friends. Boys and girls don't hang out until puberty. It's all about sex. Edited July 29, 2010 by Joe10
GoodOnPaper Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 Humans seem to curiously resistant to the idea of turning friends into lovers. To me, going from friends to lovers seems entirely natural, but as every man with "nice guy" tendencies knows, attempting this route lands one squarely in the friendzone. Instead, we're supposed go by instant physical attraction -- but if you are not particularly blessed in the looks and charisma department, how well can that work? Anyone for whom I ever felt intense physical attraction either rejected me outright or (in rare cases) would wade half-heartedly into a relationship only to bolt for another guy at first opportunity. While I know and get along with a lot of people, I consider very few to be true friends. For that to be the case, at least these two things must be apparent: 1) I have to feel comfortable opening up (or truly being myself) to him or her; 2) I have to actually want to be around him or her repeatedly. Being a natural introvert, this does not happen very often and if the friend in question is female, at least some feelings of attraction will develop along with the friendship.
DreamerGirl27 Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 Guys and girls as friends is a joke. I try to not keep guys as friends and I'm a girl and just got friendzoned by a guy. Yes, it does happen. I really don't know what his problem is, but I'm highly depressed about it and about ready to tell him to stop contacting because he is constantly IMing me and I havent' seen him in 2, almost 3 months and I tried asking him to hang out and he blew me off and I'm not okay with just being his friend. He's the guy in the situation and has 18 million friends that are girls and thinks guys and girls can be friends. I'm the chick and I'M the one disagreeing. I used to think they could be friends in high school...but every single one of my guy friends, either they have a crush on me, or I have a crush on them. The ones who we don't talk about it probably like me, too or vice versa... It just doesn't work.
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