lalalandman Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 So, 2 months later, my ex calls me up and says she wants to hang out. She dumped me, here is the story, but it's not necessary to read: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t238721/ She says she just wants to have fun, just for the day. I said, wow, you call me after 2 months and just want to hang out? She says "It's a yes or no". So, I was kind of in shock. Anyways, after a few minutes, she says Oh, I did something you're going to be really upset about. She tells me she had sex with a guy while on vacation a week after she broke up with me. We were each others first and only, up until that point. She said she did it to get over me, and I said, If you're over me, why are you calling. I wasn't furious, but I said, Listen, we're not friends, so don't call me and tell me about the guys you ****. I said If you have anything important to say, shoot me an e-mail. I hang up, think it's over, and 10 minutes later, she's pulling up into my neighborhood. Yea, she drove over to my house. She walks into my house. We talk, blah blah blah. Then out of nowhere she hugs me, for like 5 minutes. Then, I'm going to my room to get something, I turn around and she's in my room with me. I'm walking out, she stops me, throws me on the bed, shuts the blinds, closes the door, and, yea, guess what happens. I'm a ****ing idiot. It was good though. So anyways, we hang out for the rest of the day and later that night. We go to the movies that night, making out in the theatre, and then, on the way home, she is acting really strange. I get to my house to drop her off, and she starts a fight with me. I said, Just tell me you don't love me. She said I did love you, but I don't anymore, basically. I said don't call me anymore, and slam the door. Before the movies I told her I also slept with someone, which was a lie. She texts me after this fight and says I know you're bluffing, and I tell her yes, I lied because I didn't know how to respond. So next day she calls and says it's over basically. She said she loves to hang out with me because it's the best time for her, but when we fight it's just ugly. When I'm getting off the phone, she tells me I looked really good, and asks me what I'm doing that day. She says she is going shopping, by herself. So we get off the phone amicably and that was that. This was a week ago. WTF?
silic0ntoad Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 Ignore her. She's using you. I'd bet she never slept with that guy, but WANTED to. Besides, what's the point? If she's willing to lie to hurt you, why be bothered with her? I say block her number. She's a useless anchor that's only going to drown you at sea, bro.
DustySaltus Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 She's bad news. Read the links in my siganture. She wants you to dance to her beat, start your own band.
Circular Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 Well the simple reason is you completely gave her ALL the control of the relationship that day. You said 'no', she came over anyway, she jumped you, you took her to the movies, you spent the WHOLE day with her. You basically got pulled right back into the relationship, the same relationship she dumped you out of?? Make sense?! She did it to try to validate that she made the right decision. She was probably lonely, reminisced about how things were between you two, probably remembered some of the bad stuff as well, but thought 'hey, let me check this out'. You should have slow-rolled her if you were interested in anything with her. At this point though, go completely NC, don't respond to anything she sends you it's only going to get you more frustrated.
Ilovecake Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 She's selfish and mean but honest. She pretty much told you to your face that she just wants to use you for an ego boost and you went along with it. She didn't force you to do anything you did not want to do. Now she thinks you will be there at her beck and call when she has nothing and nobody better to do. Since she was nice enough to twist the knife by telling you she sleeps around I hope you used protection.
Art_Critic Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 She was just giving you the herpes the other guy gave her She just did that to see if she could.. and she could, did and still has 100% of all the control. 100% of the pussy and half of the money.. that is why women own this world.. You needed to show her that you didn't care in order to gain the power back.. you lose..
DustySaltus Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 She was just giving you the herpes the other guy gave her She just did that to see if she could.. and she could, did and still has 100% of all the control. 100% of the pussy and half of the money.. that is why women own this world.. You needed to show her that you didn't care in order to gain the power back.. you lose.. Hey Art, do us a favor and don't hold back next time....
Author lalalandman Posted July 27, 2010 Author Posted July 27, 2010 haha herpes. Anyways, I see how I made a mistake. I did lose. Anyways, do you suspect she will try something like this again, and should I really not pick up her call? Is this really just a ****ing game?
Circular Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 YOU have to decide what YOU want. Sure, she might call again rinse & repeat. Can you handle it?? Maybe she's an FB? Could you handle that? Is that what you want? I don't see her worth much more than that. Here's the bottom line, this woman has ZERO respect for you. Her dishrag at home gets more respect, that's why she did what she did to you. She thinks her value > then your value by leaps and bounds. She proved that by telling you she slept with another guy. Why? Think about it... why would she tell you that? Isn't that hurtful, cruel, undermining? She's treating you like a doormat. I'd kick her to the curb and wouldn't ever respond to her again.
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