pinkp Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 So my STBX and I are FB friends just like any young couple, and we follow eachother on twitter. It bothers me that his statuses and tweets are always happy and about him "heading to go grab a drink" or "out with friends". Why is walking around all happy and crap. I know I sound like a child stampinng her feet. But I dont think he deserves to be happy. I know you guys are are saying well just unfriend him or unfollow him on twitter. But there's a part of me that just wants to know what he's doing in his day to day life. Be nosey and see if he drops any hints about any men, or women in his life. I dont know why but I feel like I cant unfriend or unfollow him. I'm crazy I know. But I just cant help it. It's very unfair. It's like none of this effect him. He isnt bothered by the fact that our marriage is just about over. That make me feel worst. Yeah today is not a good day. I sent him a long email this morning, I know that was bad. We're doing a modified version of NC. Only contact for the girls. But when we talk it's hard for me to do that. Everytime I see him, hear his name or voice I want to lay him out and tell him how he hurt us, and how horrible he is. *Sigh* Today is a bad day. Maybe I should just delete me fb and twitter to avoid the temptation all together. This sucks.
buckeye Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 I know how you feel Pink. I found myself doing the same thing. Seeing her pics on FB and reading about the fun she was having really hurt. I finally unfriended her to end the temptation. For me, it was the smart thing to do. Good Luck
wrencn Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 Yup, just delete the accounts all together. I deleted my facebook even though we weren't friends anymore. I was just too tempted to message his EA and her boyfriend and I started to hate who I was becoming. There's a thread in coping about facebook. You should read it.
Author pinkp Posted July 27, 2010 Author Posted July 27, 2010 Yup, just delete the accounts all together. I deleted my facebook even though we weren't friends anymore. I was just too tempted to message his EA and her boyfriend and I started to hate who I was becoming. There's a thread in coping about facebook. You should read it. I sure will read it. Thanks wrencn.
PWSX3 Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 Me & my G/F were friends, she broke up with me so I talked to my counselor & he suggested that I delete her, but suggested I send an email explaining why I was going to do it & that maybe sometime down the road we could be friends again but now it was to hard. We are back together but haven't become friends again on FB & we haven't missed anything. If we want to know what is going on we talk to each other...
foamy2001 Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 I agree with a previous poster... delete the account. It only hurts you. I started a new account just to go check my ex's page... waiting for her to change her picture, constantly freaking out when she added new friends, etc... Facebook is worthless and in this type of situation, can actually be a big roadblock to your ability to move on... I haven't moved on, but not getting on facebook multiple times a day has at least allowed me to keep my sanity. Besides, even if he does miss you or is thinking about you... he's not going to put it in a status update. He's going to paint a picture of himself as happy-go-lucky no matter what is really going on.
habs53 Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 I would not delete my account just because of my wife. I deleted her as a contact and so did my family. They have no business seeing what you are your family is up to. Must drive them nuts. lol
drewsmom Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 yesterday I was asked to be friends with a girl on fb, I am pretty sure Its ex husbands gf with a phony fb page, I accepted her as a friend, she must want to go look at my stuff. This is going to be so much fun as I know If she tells him the things I am saying he will be mad with her because i know how he is. he dont like the immature things. and when he comes to me and says something I will tell him I knew all along it was her. I wont write things on the wall I will private message her. cant wait to hear from her.
Steadfast Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 Unless it's used for its intended purpose (which is networking, and it is excellent for that) FB and the social butterflies that flutter around it is facade-fake. It's all a front. Anyone (and I mean anyone) who post daily, hourly or even every few minutes about mundane topics and updates is desperate for attention and unbelievably lonely. Don't buy it. It's a sham. Besides, he knows your reading it. Do you realize that through FB, you're being played? One way or another, you'll need to move on and move past this obsession you have with him. Take the power he has over you back and use it for your own edification. You won't begin to heal until you do-
YellowShark Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 (edited) Unless it's used for its intended purpose (which is networking, and it is excellent for that) FB and the social butterflies that flutter around it is facade-fake. It's all a front. Anyone (and I mean anyone) who post daily, hourly or even every few minutes about mundane topics and updates is desperate for attention and unbelievably lonely. Don't buy it. It's a sham. IMHO Facebook and Twitter is where narcissists go for validation. It is where people control what information gets presented to the public for self-promotion and to make the posters look and feel attractive. Somehow the Earth functioned pretty darn well before Facebook was invented in 2004 and Twitter was invented in 2006. If Facebook and Twitter are giving you grief, GET OFF THEM AND GO OUTSIDE! Edited July 28, 2010 by YellowShark spelling
whichwayisup Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 Do yourself a favour. Delete him as a friend and stop following him on twitter. He is your soon to be ex, there's no point in pouring salt into your wounds by knowing what he's up to 24/7. How are you able to begin to grieve and heal when you keep tabs on him and him on you? How is that helpful and healthy?
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