qinboxmail Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 So I've been with this girl for three years. She says she love me and everything. Talked about wedding for months and also recently. Then boom she says we're not compatible and says that she's is no longer in love with me. So WTH ? Why she bothers to get in a relationship and then later fall out of love ? How do I prevent this from happening in the future ? Thanks
Atlantico Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 There is no formula to avoid that. Just overcome and move on...
Ilovecake Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 So I've been with this girl for three years. She says she love me and everything. Talked about wedding for months and also recently. Then boom she says we're not compatible and says that she's is no longer in love with me. So WTH ? Why she bothers to get in a relationship and then later fall out of love ? How do I prevent this from happening in the future ? Thanks There is no way for anyone to know that they'll fall out of love and there is no way for you to make sure that doesn't happen.
TouchedByViolet Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 Just another reason of how crappy life can be sometimes. Not much you can do about this...
Circular Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 There's who she thought you were, that's the person she fell in love with. Then there's the person you really are or became once you were in the relationship, that's who she fell out of love with. This is a common issue in relationships, who we appear to be and who we are in a relationship aren't always the same. One of the trickiest things and you'll see it posted here over and over is how to maintain your self identity 'that person she fell in love with' once the relationship becomes fully formed. It's a difficult thing to do, many will toss aside friends, hobbies, and more to accommodate a relationship to the degree that it becomes the center-point of their lives.... It's a great ride for awhile; that connectedness, that oneness, the sex is awesome, always talking, texting, IM'ing, emailing, etc... Until one of the partners wakes up and realizes they've given up so much of their lives to the relationship and long for some balance. Thing is, at this point people blame the partner for this, they're not mature enough to see that what truly needs to happen is a few arguments and deep discussions about the relationship to create healthier boundaries and it will require some emotional pain on both sides. We've all made these mistakes. What happens is they 'fall out of love' because it seems the quickest fix to the problem.
hopesndreams Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 So I've been with this girl for three years. She says she love me and everything. Talked about wedding for months and also recently. Then boom she says we're not compatible and says that she's is no longer in love with me. So WTH ? Why she bothers to get in a relationship and then later fall out of love ? How do I prevent this from happening in the future ? Thanks She was experiencing an "imitation" love for you. No doubt the fella she is now in love with will be treated the same way. How to prevent this from happening again? Send $19.95 to ..............
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