evitative Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 I dated this guy for a little over a year- my first long-term relationship. He ended up moving a few hours away and we attempted the LDR, but it failed miserably: he and I both needed physical (not just sex, touching, kissing, hanging out etc) attention more than we were able to have. He has since gotten a new girlfriend, I a new boyfriend (though I don't think it's going to last.. I keep missing this guy and taking it out on the new boyfriend. It doesn't feel healthy, and I don't like that.) and we have been fine being "just friends" Until today, when while talking, he dropped something hinting towards still having feelings. Upon further poking at it, he eventually said "oh shut up and let me still love you." This only further continued while we reminisced about old times and how much we missed each other. This has set off a whole whirlwind of emotions for me, and I can't tell if he's saying it just to set off the whirlwind of emotions so that it's obvious to him I still want him. I made the mistake of being desperate in trying to get him back by sleeping with him on one of his visits home (shortly after the break-up) and feel that may have been something that let him know he can use me for spare affection when he isn't getting any. (I say that, because, not even a week ago he admitted that his girlfriend was drifting away from him-- I don't know how much longer that relationship will last. Part of me hopes not very long at all.) He and I won't be able to be together again physically for two more years, which makes this situation even more confusing. I feel horrible wanting him back, as before this I'd been perfectly fine living without him (though I do miss him terribly some days) I don't know what to do.
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