Romance Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 I just got home after visiting my SO for ten days. ..I feel really sad. I'm not home alone or anything, my mother has been here. But it's just not the same. I keep going into little 2 minute crying episodes and I feel just..empty. I'm hoping I'm not becoming depressed over this.. and that it'll go away in a few days? I just feel..incredibly..sad.
SarahRose Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 Yes a couple of times returning I did dip into a depression. Extreme jetlag and time change didn't help anything.
Enchanted Girl Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 It happens to me every time honestly. We can only see each other every 6 months - a year, so I get really sad when I'm gone from him again. It almost always goes away after a few days though.
Citizen Erased Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 The first time, yes. I was a mess to be honest. I came home to a lot of crap which didn't help but I thought I was going crazy. This was the girl that this time last year couldn't remember the last time she cried. It was because things were very uncertain and we had no idea when we would see each other. Thankfully it was only 3 months apart. And this latest visit...well now I know that the end of the distance altogether is near. I've realised it's so much easier for me to handle this when I know what's going to happen. When it's up in the air...not to fun. I hope your guy is as understanding as mine was when I was a crying, unattractive mess.
D-Lish Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 It's normal to feel overwhelmed by emotion immediately following a visit. It does diminish. You'll get back into the swing of things after a few days- it just takes time to settle back in and get re-acquainted with your day-to-day life. Soon, you'll plan another visit, then go into getting excited about seeing each other again. The anticipation over seeing one another will replace the loss you feel right now. LDR's are hard- very hard.
Enchanted Girl Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 The first time, yes. I was a mess to be honest. I came home to a lot of crap which didn't help but I thought I was going crazy. This was the girl that this time last year couldn't remember the last time she cried. It was because things were very uncertain and we had no idea when we would see each other. Thankfully it was only 3 months apart. And this latest visit...well now I know that the end of the distance altogether is near. I've realised it's so much easier for me to handle this when I know what's going to happen. When it's up in the air...not to fun. I hope your guy is as understanding as mine was when I was a crying, unattractive mess. Yea, that definitely does help. Most times, unfortunately, we don't know when exactly we'll see one another again.
carvidep Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 yep, happened to me both times. it'll get better, just cry it out for now. I'm already dreading the day he leaves after our next visit. But I'm more excited to see him again!!!
Author Romance Posted July 27, 2010 Author Posted July 27, 2010 Thanks everyone! I've been in my ldr for 2 years, but normally we just see each other for a weekend..so it's not so bad adjusting. This time, it being a week..I just felt crushed.
D-Lish Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 Thanks everyone! I've been in my ldr for 2 years, but normally we just see each other for a weekend..so it's not so bad adjusting. This time, it being a week..I just felt crushed. You'll adjust- it just takes a few days.
Bostonbabe Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 I have the exact same problem. Just came back from my first weekend visit with the bf since he moved and feel like im right back where I started when he first left. The thing I have had most problems with is the anxiety. I usually wake up in the morning incredibly stressed with my heart pounding and it usually continues throughout my day with tiny 1 minute crying sessions occassionally. I have been trying to find some strategies to calm myself down but I am guessing that time is the only answer in that a couple days I should be better, or at least where I was before the trip. Its just tough. I hate that whiplash feeling.
aerogurl87 Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 I guess I'm weird. When I got home from visiting my SO for two weeks I cried on the plane ride back (the whole 12 hour journey on 3 different planes). But when I got back home I was so excited to tell all my friends about how awesome the two weeks had went all the sadness kinda got pushed back. Every once in awhile I'll break down and randomly cry or something, but that's it. I try not to dwell on the fact he's not here, but push myself to look forward to our next meeting, that way I stay sane. I know my boyfriend lost it when I left though as he was depressed for the next two weeks he told me.
HeavenOrHell Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 I feel a little sad when we part but mostly I feel happy cos we have such a lovely time together, but I'm luckier than many people as we meet every 6-8 weeks, if I wasn't going to see him for months I would get depressed tbh
Author Romance Posted July 28, 2010 Author Posted July 28, 2010 I guess I just miss his company a lot! Lying in bed at night watching some favorite tv shows.. snuggling. I just wish I could have that everynight, I guess! I mostly just feel super sad when im bored and not doing much, it gives me time to think.
LikeCharlotte Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 The first week after is always awful for me. The terrible the airport business... I have no idea how I don't lose it. I just let myself be in it because I want to remember, even the bad parts. It goes away. If all goes well eventually it will stop all together.
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