Maverick1983 Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 Hi everyone,this is for people on here that are having a hard time getting their ex out of their heads.As I was doing some thinking about my ex yesterday I realised that since I decided to try and get her back I have been subconciously putting her on a pedistal and I suppose making her out to be this perfect being. I think the pain we feel when we miss someone possibly causes us to idolise that person we love when really we should be,in this hurting time concentrating on why we were not compatible in the first place.This could be anything from an arguement to an action that left you upset or worried.Why can't we focus on the negatives instead of building up our exs and feeling worse because they don't want us after we try to get them back.I decided instead of focussing on all of the wonderful attributes she has(and she really does)I'm going to focus on everything that led to our break up i.e hurtful words or just general things that may have annoyed me about her and use that to really gauge whether or not it's a good idea to try again if there's still something there. Remember everyone,it's called a "break up" because it's broken!! Take this time to realise that it is you that should be the one healing and if that person hurt you they don't deserve to be up on that pedistal that we have so hurriedly put them on.I know it's easier said than done but let's face it why should we drag ourselves down any further.Don't think because one person rejects you that there is no one else that will love you out there because that is crap.There is so many people out there that may be even better than this "girl" so aren't we better off being in the position and right mentality to go get them.Sometimes we only remember all the good times we were with that special person but it's healthier to sometimes focus on the bad times and hopefully gain comfort that maybe all this is for the best.Good luck to all on Ls and I hope we all eventually find peace.
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