I work with my Ex and can't do NC

[agonizingoverthis]

Hi, I'm a new poster and member. My ex-gf broke up with me about a month ago. We'd been together a year and a half and for most of that time, we were as close to soulmates as I've ever experienced. We were compatible on so many levels, and were so much in love.

 

She had a lot of problems in her life (crazy ex, crazy parents, and more) so I put a lot of emotional energy into supporting her and at times I just had no more to give. Towards the end of the relationship, she got increasingly angry with me when she needed more nurturing than I was giving. These last few months were rough. She broke up with me 4 times, and this last time she made it clear she has moved on.

 

In spite of her external problems, I feel we could have made it, and she gave up too easily. I tried to talk to her and convince her how we could go about things differently so she'd feel nurtured, I wouldn't feel burned out, etc. But she flat out said no.

 

I am devastated, but trying to move on. We haven't contacted each other outside of work for the last couple weeks, but I see her at work and today had to sit at a meeting across from her. This is hell and I don't know what to do. I can't change my job for the next year. She is looking for another job, but will be there a minimum of 6 weeks.

 

Why can't we have the people we love, and when we can't have them, why is it so hard to get away from them?

[Scruffydog]

You've probably heard the expression "If you love someone, set them free"? It's a tough thing to do when it comes down to it though, real tough. I'm sorry you're having a bad time but try to keep your head held high, people tell me that it'll get easier, not that it really feels so at the moment...

 

Scruffydog

[agonizingoverthis]

I'm trying to set her free, as excruciating as it is, but it is killing me that I have to see her (at work). It's making it so hard for me to heal and let go.