Hansha Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 Its funny how the last time I posted here was about the very same person that I sought advice for. This time around its a little different, I guess. What I'm hoping to figure out is what to do at this point. I think my friend is heartbroken, and won't admit to it. I know her enough to sense something of the sort. But, she seems to hate me lately, and wants nothing to do with me because of some troubles we had a few months ago. I've tried apologizing and even pleading for some offense I wasn't told about, but I've decided at this point, forgiveness is not in the immediate future. I plan to keep my mind off her for the time being so that I don't have to shed unnecessary tears and cause more trouble than its worth. But I do intend to give it another shot sometime much later, to see if things have been cooled down enough to reconcile even a little. She once expressed her deep love for me, and I the same, and it seems she harbors some of those feelings still. I wonder, what should I do in the mean time?
Mme. Chaucer Posted July 31, 2010 Posted July 31, 2010 What should you do in the mean time? Your hobbies, read books, go to movies, travel, do your homework, help out around the house, volunteer at Habitats for Humanity, spend (healthy) time with friends, start an art project, learn a new skill, groom your pets ... That should be a good start.
carhill Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 Friends are valuable and valued assets in life. Part of that value is space and autonomy. Enjoying your own space and autonomy is sometimes the best way of being a friend.
Sophia8 Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 To forgive someone, truly forgive someone, can be a very difficult process. It may be worthwhile to make her aware that she is a very valued friend to you and you will be there when she is ready to talk etc. In the meantime, although it may be hard for you, just get on with your "normal" life - whatever that may consist of. At the end of the day you can not force her to talk about whatever she is going through, just like you can not force her to continue being your friend. People sometimes need space to think things through and by you giving her space, you are being a good friend.
Author Hansha Posted August 2, 2010 Author Posted August 2, 2010 Mhm.. I understand. I think I've learned the hard way that its difficult to make someone forgive you. I've offered my honest feelings and requests for forgiveness, and I'll only wait for the right time. Though, I am trying to find ways to keep my mind off this sorrow while we have our space.
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