tuscansun Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 Hi lS, haven't been around in a while but I'm having an issue with my friend. This is my best friend that I've known since we were kids, we're in our mid twenties now. I still like her, I'm still close to her family and I do think this is salvagable, however she can get really moody with me and I'm starting to get sick of it. It can be anything from snapping at me over something stupid or rolling her eyes when I don't say what she wants me to say. This is always followed by some halfa**ed apology, more like a question than an apology...something like, "was I being moody? sorry if I was" and she gives some reason why she's been moody 'lately'. I didn't know the last ten years was "lately". This is a pattern, she always does this and then always 'apologizes' and ALWAYS does it again, and again, and again. I used to just chalk it up to pms but it's getting more and more constant. If I give her space because I feel like she needs it, then she gets really sensitive, like I'm blowing her off because she's too difficult to be around. If I suck it up and hang out with her anyway, she's bound to do it again...so I'm just not sure what to say. I don't think she understands that this is consistent behavior. She always has an excuse for it. Even when I tell her, 'you know you do this a lot', she's like really? Because I don't notice that I do, I mean I know I'm like that sometimes but...Uck, its just really starting to get to me, to the point where even when I'm in church I'm thinking 'i hope she's LISTENING to this sermon'! I know none of us are perfect and I know I have my moody days. But I make it a point to not take it out on her, either that or TELL her, hey Im not feeling to well today or something like that. She just lashes out consistently. I ask her if shes doing okay or if something is bothering her and she swears shes fine...so..I don't know I would really appreciate some good opinions on this. Thank you guys so much
blueyedgrl85 Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 Since this has been going on for ten years, it's most likely just her personality. This girl probably does value your friendship, but two things get in the way: low self-esteem and not wanting to get close emotionally. She creates drama to create an emotional bridge to save herself from being crushed and rejected. Also the attention from you asking her what is wrong makes her feel like she has more value. It's sort of this hot and cold type treatment. It's time to reevaluate your friendship and decide what she brings to you as a friend and go from there. Take care!
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