Is it dodge for woman to keep friendship/contact with x boyfriends.

[Hamish]

Why do some woman feel the need to keep in contact with as many x boyfriends as possible? Is it dodge or normal? wouldn’t she still hold some feelings towards them making it little dangerous or can woman erase these feelings once moved on to next guy?

 

My girlfriend at the time had daddy issues because her dad left the family for younger partner when she was in her early teens so she craved for male attention during her twenties. Now 33 and doesn’t party or go night clubbing any more, can woman with daddy issues out grow the male attention thing or is that why she still prefers male company and contact with x boyfriends but to insecure for her current partner to do the same?

 

I knew her last x still wanted her and at least one of her male friends had texted her "I want to be with you etc, etc". Maybe she was innocent but subconsciously still craves the male attention putting out those "I available" signals to them or is it just guys being guys trying their luck?

Edited July 26, 2010 by Hamish
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[denise_xo]

Why do some woman feel the need to keep in contact with as many x boyfriends as possible? Is it dodge or normal? wouldn’t she still hold some feelings towards them making it little dangerous or can woman erase these feelings once moved on to next guy?

 

My girlfriend at the time had daddy issues because her dad left the family for younger partner when she was in her early teens so she craved for male attention during her twenties. Now 33 and doesn’t party or go night clubbing any more, can woman with daddy issues out grow the male attention thing or is that why she still prefers male company and contact with x boyfriends but to insecure for her current partner to do the same?

 

I knew her last x still wanted her and at least one of her male friends had texted her "I want to be with you etc, etc". Maybe she was innocent but subconsciously still craves the male attention putting out those "I available" signals to them or is it just guys being guys trying their luck?

 

I have definitely moved on from my exs, and have no problems maintaining a platonic relationship with them, since the 'moving on' feeling is mutual. I would not, however, like an ex to send me 'I want to be with you' text messages after I entered a new relationship, and I would tell him that quite clearly if it happened.

 

IMO she can theoretically outgrow the male attention thing, if that is what this is about - but the core issue then is for her to build up her own confidence.