freaked_out Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 I met my girlfriend 4 years ago when she was 18 and since the first day we met we were hooked to each other. I could not stop looking at her and thinking of her and she felt the same.By the way I`m 27 and she`s 22 now.Sex was great, life was great I felt happy and on top of the world. We`ve been living together ever since and a year and a half ago we moved into 1 bedroom apartment together without any roomates ( because she had issues with everyone else that was living with us ... ever ).I thought she might turn on me after there`s no one else to b1tch at, but I belived in her and thought she has a good soul. So 6 months after we moved in together things went colder and she started skipping my calls and not responding to my messages. We started arguing a lot. She`s working as a server in a restaurant and I`m contractor so when business is slow sometimes i have 10 days without work and just relaxing at home and waiting for the job to come , and for her to come home so we can hang out and relax and enjoy our night. She`s working late till 11pm or so, but she started getting home late , around 2-3am so drunk she cant open the door by herself. I thought this will pass , but with time it got just worse. We broke up for a month around that time, because i found her facebook page on without her logging out and I read some love messages between her and another guy. She told me that nothing ever happened between him and her and it was friends love and the guy was moving few states west so there`s nothing to worry about and she asked me to forgive her and told me she`ll do everything to work things out. And ... i belied her..... big mistake..... when something starts spoiling is not going to smell fresher with more time to go. She started getting wasted 4-5 days out of the week and parting every night, not coming home, but calling me on the phone every hour to let me know that she`ll be home in 30 min.... i could not stand it anymore so i told her that she has to make her choice. She apologized for hour and begged me for forgiveness ( I love her to death so i did forgive her again ). That same day that she said she`s not going to do that anymore we were supposed to go to a party together... she got drunk with one of her friends at a bar and didn`t answer her phone for like 1 hour. When she answered she told me she`ll pick me up and to wait for her infront of our apartment... she didnt show...and made me wait 30 min outside like a dummy.Then she called me 40min later after i was waiting to ask me where am I ? So we broke up....again. Since we broke up she`s partying all the time and getting wasted with friends and not spending the night home and I`m all alone at home trapped in my own toghts and i feel horrible pain inside. I feel betrayed and hurt and she doesnt really care. So the last time we talk she said she`s moving out the end of this month.... and now she`s telling me that she hasnt found a place yet and she has to stay one more month. I dont know what to do... I love her, I want things to be ok. But I know that they wont and that everything has ended. But the fact that i`m a roommate with my ex and I`m seeing her every other day is really stopping me from moving on. I dont really know what to do. It`s my longest relationship in my life i thought I`ll marry this girl and suddenly my world goes around and I can feel it in my gut 24/7 and I can hardly sleep. I thought it will be ok to live with her for couple of weeks till its the end of the month. But now she`s not asking ... she`s telling me that she has nowhere to go and she has to stay with me one more month. What to do ? Please serious replies only. I have a big problem and I think im loosing my mind... there are a thousand pieces of our life together but I dont think I`ll be able to fit the whole story here without loosing everyone`s attention. Should I ask her to leave by the end of the month anyway ?
oldfashiongirlie Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 I think you should tell her to move anyways, it sounds like it's a real complicated relationship, but it is driving you crazy, and it is not healthy for either one. People change constantly, and if she wants to be a teen then there is nothing you can do about it. Just be strong and think about yourself, because it sounds like she is being selfish, it will be hard, but time will cure your heart. Good luck
Recommended Posts