MexicanBillBacker Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 What do you do when both people love each other very much, but are separated by an external factor? My gf's parents don't want me to be with her because I'm not from a rich family. I'm a college student in one of the best universities in Mexico but I'm by no means rich...I'm basically middle class. She's heartbroken and I am too but I've just chalked this up to life sucking dick most of the time. I'm really sad but I've drowned my sorrows successfully listening to love songs and drinking crazy amounts of alcohol. Right now the 25th of July I've decided to not drink and just sit in my bed and embrace the pain. Not fun but I feel much stronger emotionally. I feel pain for my gf, she's having a tough time and there's not much I can do about it. We mutually agreed that we should not contact each other to make the separation easier, but she broke it off today and called me. We both cried and then I told her that maybe in another life we can be together and that I love her very much and wanted her to find happiness with someone else. Next stop in the coping train is one drunken week in South Padre Island starting Tuesday.
This Hurts Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 I understand these situations are hard, but if you both love each other so much, then why are you letting yourselves be guided by her family's opinion? The way I see it, this doesn't have to be this way. It's the 21st century, nobody's going to kill you for being with one another. It might be hard but in most cases like this, the family eventually ends up accepting it. Besides, you mentioned you're in a very good school, so this might not be an issue forever. After some time, if they see things between the two of you are healthy and she's happy, they will most likely come to terms with it. It might sound idealistic of me, but I think we're in different times now than Romeo & Juliet, or even 50 years ago, and I think to be separated by something like that is just too obsolete. I have no intentions to offend or criticize, by the way. Just my two cents I wish you both the best of luck, honestly.
USMCHokie Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 What do you do when both people love each other very much, but are separated by an external factor? Then one of those people simply wasn't interested enough in the relationship to overcome the external factor.
smk Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 What do you do when both people love each other very much, but are separated by an external factor? My gf's parents don't want me to be with her because I'm not from a rich family. I'm a college student in one of the best universities in Mexico but I'm by no means rich...I'm basically middle class. She's heartbroken and I am too but I've just chalked this up to life sucking dick most of the time. I'm really sad but I've drowned my sorrows successfully listening to love songs and drinking crazy amounts of alcohol. Right now the 25th of July I've decided to not drink and just sit in my bed and embrace the pain. Not fun but I feel much stronger emotionally. I feel pain for my gf, she's having a tough time and there's not much I can do about it. We mutually agreed that we should not contact each other to make the separation easier, but she broke it off today and called me. We both cried and then I told her that maybe in another life we can be together and that I love her very much and wanted her to find happiness with someone else. Next stop in the coping train is one drunken week in South Padre Island starting Tuesday. I know exactly how you feel - i was in a similar situation 6 weeks ago - except her family didnt want her to be with me bacause I am of a different skin colour... its hurts like a mofo - and trust me i have done the drinking and all that will do is make you feel even worse the next day... again I am talking from first hand experience... All I can say is that love is not easy like in the movies. 2 people want to have be with each other to truly make it work - i am not saying your GF doesnt love you, but at this point she has decided that she loves her family more and unfortunately there is nothing that you can do to change that. I know of other people who have been in a similar situation and fortunately for them they did love each other to defy the odds and fight for their love, and today 7 years later they are happily married and the families have accepted it. As unfortunate and as harsh as this maybe - you need to let go - the heartbreak only gets worse before it gets better, but truthfully do you want to fight for someone who doesnt think you are worth fighting for??? If she loved you enough she would defy any odds to be with you. Unfortunately in my case my ex didnt think i was worth fighting for and no matter what i did, no matter how much fighting i did for it to work it need the both of you to want the same thing.. I am not saying your gf is anything like my ex, but if you look at the bigger picture it takes 2 people to make a relationship work. I know NC is hard for both you and her, my ex said the same thing to me yet 2 days later she phoned me up, and we cried and talked but unfortunately she wasnt not willing to fight for our love and hence i realised 13 days ago that the only way i would heal is to go NC... I only realised yesterday that the alocohol and partying may numb the pain momentarily however eventually it only fuels it and magnifies it. be strong buddy - you will get through this - as some wise person once said: "what doesnt kill you will only make you stronger"...
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