JamesB Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 Hi, I split with my ex 2 months ago. In this time I found out she's been seeing someone else who she met while she was still with me. when I found out I sent her a message saying I knew and how low I thought her actions were. She called me straight away and we arranged to meet. She told me that she had Been on a few dates with this guy but nothing more. She said he was too full on and had put he was in a relationship with her on facebook but she didn't accept the request. I don't know if this is true as I removed her from facebook when we split but his profile is open and it does say he's in a realionship with her. She then got tearfull and told me she still loved me and missed me. She said she would like to start seeing me again and take things slowly. I agreed cos I still love her. We kissed when I dropped her home which Was her doing, She kissed me. She sent me texts late into the night that night saying she was happy and hopefull for us. It was the same next day, must have got 10 messages from here saying how much she was looking forward to seeing me this weekend Then Saturday she seemed cold. I called her to arrange what time we should meet as she had said to me sat lunch time. I didn't hear back till late evening. She said she was sorry but was very tired and we should meet Thursday night. I tried to call her again but she wouldn't pick up. I don't know what to make of this. I also called her today (Sunday) but no answer. She text me saying sorry she was busy babysitting her little brother. It's annoyed me a lot as I was just getting over her and had accepted that we were finished for good. Now I'm filled with hope that we can get back together and it's doing my head in. I wasn't even that jelous when I found out about this other guy but now it drives me mad thinking that she was with him this weekend. should I just leave her alone again and go NC? I did that succesfully and she was the one who broke NC last time. I'm really confused, is she just playing with me or does she still have feelings for me?
Sonolumino Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 I'm really confused, is she just playing with me or does she still have feelings for me? That is irrelevant. I know you have strong feelings for this girl, but honestly, she was seeing another man behind your back while you two were still dating. Get rid of her. This girl obviously has a lot of growing up to do, especially the way she handled the whole "I want to see you again" thing. She obviously doesn't know what she wants, and you don't need to waste your time hanging around for her to figure it out. The emotional maturity needed for a relationship just isn't present from what it seems. I know it's hard to hear but there will be another person that will come into your life and everything will just be easy. You won't ever find that person by living in the past. Focus on yourself in the coming months. Get to know what you want, who you are, and what makes you happy. Take a good lesson from this relationship and do your best to let her down easy if you wish. Good luck
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