Question on separation and telling children

[spots94]

My H and I are separated for almost a month. My H told this to our children what do you make of it?

Even if me and your mom aren’t together, everyone will still see each other and we'll be okay. My husband was the one who wanted the separtaion and we agreed we don't want to get there hopes up in case it doesn't work out. To me this seams like it could get there hopes up. I know he doesn't know what he wants but I don't want my kids to think it will work out and then it doesn't. My daugther who is 12 says she is confused now by what he said.

Edited July 26, 2010 by spots94

[spriggig]

... My daugther who is 12 says she is confused now by what he said.

 

There was a time when you could speak for him, now you can't. She's old enough to understand if you tell her she'll have to ask him what he meant for herself.

 

To me it seemed pretty clear and reassuring. I think he handled it well.

[spots94]

I know I can't speak for him no one can speak for anothr person. I told my daughter if she doesn't understand to ask him and he will explain better. She told me she wants to know if we will get divorced or not or get back together that is what she asked him. I told her that I don't know that there is a chance for divorce and that mom and dad need our time apart for now to work on things.