Author Fra Posted July 26, 2010 Author Posted July 26, 2010 I am not saying become their friend. Definitely don't work your way into the friendzone. Let me make myself more clear: Just be concerned with talking to them as if you would ask for the number and ask them out but you don't actually ask them for their number or ask them out. Now if they like you and ask you to call them, do it but you are not going to ask for the number or ask them out. We are going to take the whole rejection thing out of the equation here because you won't be asking for anything that requires and agreement or rejection. You are just talking. You are just outgoing and fun to talk with. You won't talk about shoes or soap operas so lets make that clear as well. You want to have patience and the attitude and words that comes with it. Don't ask them out for now but you have to keep talking. Good luck! Haha. Patience is the very virtue I so do lack XD "a candle that burns twice as bright, burns half as long" But it sure is prettier But the issue with that is the entire "Who makes the first move" flux that can happen... Nothin will happen. Girls in highschool don't have any patience either. If it don't happen in a week, it won't happen..
zengirl Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 Sayin this off a whim here... Ya seem like a feminist... >_>;; I believe I deserve my equal rights with a man, yeah, and I'm glad some ladies fought for them before I was born. But I think men deserve their equal rights too. And people from every ethnicity, religion (including lack of religion), and sexuality. as for the rejection thing... How many times do I have to say this- I am saying BIATCHES out of frustration right now... Get over it. Anyways. Some of the crap these girls have said... I mean "I forgot I had a boyfriend"Saying something out of frustration doesn't make it positive. I'm not saying you should be more positive for other people; I'm saying you should do it for yourself. At any rate, this will be my last post here. Good luck to you, really. So yup. Women are perfect and I am a shovenistic[spelling is terrible I know] pig. Yup. Reality. Yup yup.It's "chauvinistic" (spelling; I wouldn't correct it, but you mention it). And I don't think you are that, really, just really lost in your own negativity. Certainly, some of those girls acted poorly. I totally agree with you there, and some temporary anger over the situation (i.e. You're stood up, you're angry, you feel that anger, you deal with it, you move along) is healthy and normal. Holding onto the anger is only hurting you. None of those things are happening right this very moment. Why are you angry about them in this moment? As for your problem, there is no quick fix. High school just sucks for some people. I don't know why or how to solve it. But being a more positive, less angry person will only help you. I wouldn't have said anything if I thought you were just some hopeless chauvinistic jerk dissing perfect gals. You seem like a teenage boy in sincere pain. I hope you get what you want and I hope you get it in a healthy, happy fashion. Cheers. P.S. Never mind her. She's read a lot of books and is dangerous. Fair enough, I haveread a lot of books, and I suppose my philosophies are dangerous to a lot of people. Who wants to be happy and present? No, the human condition wants sympathy and unhappiness. Too true, too true. FWIW, my philosophies come predominantly from when I stopped reading books (as much) and started living life.
Author Fra Posted July 26, 2010 Author Posted July 26, 2010 It's "chauvinistic" (spelling; I wouldn't correct it, but you mention it). And I don't think you are that, really, just really lost in your own negativity. Certainly, some of those girls acted poorly. I totally agree with you there, and some temporary anger over the situation (i.e. You're stood up, you're angry, you feel that anger, you deal with it, you move along) is healthy and normal. Holding onto the anger is only hurting you. None of those things are happening right this very moment. Why are you angry about them in this moment? No actually when I get rejected I usually end up beatin myself up for being optimistic and go back to tryin to figure out what I did wrong this time. [also I saw a picture of a girl's eyes today which just reminded me of a lot of ****]
callingyouuu Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 (edited) IMHO, my biggest mistake in high school relationships was to take everything too seriously. High school (and for some people, college) are just practice grounds for dating later in life. From experience, the majority of "attractive" girls are super fickle during high school, and even if you were able to get with one of them, you'd just be the flavor of the month. Take it easy, dude. High school dating shouldn't be stressful. No actually when I get rejected I usually end up beatin myself up for being optimistic and go back to tryin to figure out what I did wrong this time. [also I saw a picture of a girl's eyes today which just reminded me of a lot of ****] You didn't do anything wrong. She just wasn't interested. Just use it as an opportunity to fine-tune your b*tch radar and hope your next shot doesn't land you another one. Also, while we're on the topic, I believe the idiom is chauvinist pig. Edited July 26, 2010 by callingyouuu
Sabali Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 (edited) Haha. Patience is the very virtue I so do lack XD "a candle that burns twice as bright, burns half as long" But it sure is prettier But the issue with that is the entire "Who makes the first move" flux that can happen... Nothin will happen. Girls in highschool don't have any patience either. If it don't happen in a week, it won't happen.. When I speak of patience, I am not thinking of expecting something to happen next week or next month. Scary, huh? You are thinking “I will have to wait longer than a month?” Maybe. It is hard to grasp this because it is often difficult for people to realize how young they are when they are young. A lot of people don’t even date in high school. Again, you have to approach this concept without expecting something to happen and in the process, something may happen but you won't be getting caught up with actual results. I never even thought of ever counting rejections. Get rid of your calculator and stop counting them. Any successful man will tell you the key to success is not dwelling on failures. Any one of them. You learn from failures and use that knowledge to send yourself to the next level. I am not sure how else to explain this. You have probably never watched the movie Swingers, have you? Where there is a part in the beginning of the movie where the main character “Mike” is getting advice from his friend about how to get over a woman who dumped him. He tells Mike to pretend that he is over his GF and then in the process he will one day realize that he is actually over his GF. This is sort of a different spin on that concept. Approach girls and speak to them without the aim of getting their numbers and setting up dates. Speak to them like you are going in for the kill but don’t ask them for any thing once the conversation come to a close. After doing this for a while (don’t expect next week), you will become more relaxed with speaking with them, learn to avoid turnoffs in conversation, and learn patience. As you have more experience, you will be mores successful with your rejection to success ratio. Then you will find out that you have to tackle a whole other monster. Maintaining her interest in you. Don't even think about that one for now. Don’t try to move too fast. Sometimes you have to work for results in the long run. If you strike up conversation with a coed tomorrow, you don’t have to be going to the movies next week. Think in the long run for now. College is the real Olympics. Train yourself for that. I wouldn't beat myself up about not having dates now. It is just too early in your life. Edited July 26, 2010 by Sabali
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