Meeting someone

[Fra]

Mkay... Well I want to meet someone to start dating here in Lowsyana before I graduate highschool. Anyone have any advice for asking a girl out?

 

Because asking them out is a bad idea if you do it 2 days -3 weeks after meeting them, and any time after that you are just a friend.

 

Soo.. I am confused as to how to ask out a girl... and where to meet any good ones.

[Art_Critic]

Mkay... Well I want to meet someone to start dating here in Lowsyana before I graduate highschool. Anyone have any advice for asking a girl out?

 

Because asking them out is a bad idea if you do it 2 days -3 weeks after meeting them, and any time after that you are just a friend.

 

Soo.. I am confused as to how to ask out a girl... and where to meet any good ones.

 

Well.. learning how to spell Louisiana and High School would be a start

 

At your age the only way you will learn is to try one thing and keep trying till you find something that works..

 

Don't get down if you get rejected.. just look at it as their loss and move on but try something new when you ask the next girl out..

 

Chat 'em up and ask 'em out...

[Sabali]

These silly adult topics will poison your mind, son. These rules seem to not exist in high school. All you need to do is talk to the girl and ask. You still have to show confidence and not be a bore.

 

It is only when you get to college when things start to change. I wouldn't play around at this stage since I really think it will work against you.

[Fra]

Yeah... 30 times in the first half of my Junior year shot me down. I mean that many rejections- has to be somethin wrong.

 

And it is Lowsyana. Louisiana sucks. Worst state I can think of to live. I hate this place. 'Least my school is decent. But the bitches are crazy there. So I need some idea of where to go other than my school.

[Art_Critic]

And it is Lowsyana. Louisiana sucks. Worst state I can think of to live. I hate this place. 'Least my school is decent. But the bitches are crazy there. So I need some idea of where to go other than my school.

 

Well... I think we might be on to something here...

 

Do you consider women bitches ?

[Sabali]

Yeah... 30 times in the first half of my Junior year shot me down. I mean that many rejections- has to be somethin wrong.

 

And it is Lowsyana. Louisiana sucks. Worst state I can think of to live. I hate this place. 'Least my school is decent. But the bitches are crazy there. So I need some idea of where to go other than my school.

 

30 times in the first year!? I am proud of you, kid. You are doing the most important thing and that is approaching the young ladies. Other guys in your class are writing notes and slipping them into lockers and crap.

 

You don't have enough rejections under your belt. The more you talk, the better your words will sound and the more people will be willing to hear them. If you treat this like a job, it won't work. This has to be fun for you. Just talk to them and don't be concerned with asking them out. Just talk to them. Things will just happen. Trust me.

[Sabali]

Well... I think we might be on to something here...

 

Do you consider women bitches ?

 

 

LOl. He is just frustrated.

 

You are just frustrated right, man? You don't call the ladies this, do you?

 

He has yet to learn how to smile a rejection off and creep inside of the next open window.

[Art_Critic]

LOl. He is just frustrated. He has yet to learn how to smile a rejection off and creep inside of the next open window.

 

Well.. that frustration is making it right to the next girl he asks out..

A girl can smell fear and anger a mile away, and a guy who calls women bitches has some anger issues to deal with..

Sorry.. When I was young I got turned down a lot too and I never called a girl anything but a girl..

 

You are probably right about not being able to smile off the rejection.. that is all in the frame of mind he has..

[Fra]

I have heard every rejection that can be made up. If not every, then majority. Over the past 3 years, I have become more and more sadistic and maniacal.

 

Freshman year I was really passive, and took 3 months to ask out one girl.. But guess what, she just used me cause she was horny and I reminded her of her ex. She promptly cut off all comunication with me after I called her a slut for goin out with 4 different guys within 2 weeks and loosing her virginity cause she was bored.

 

-sigh- anyways. Shut off for the next year, and then a transfer student and I started talking. Asked her out, she said yes. 3 days later she is in the arms of one of her old friends. The day we were supposed to go out too

 

So i didnt try anything until Junior year. Rejection upon rejection. So yeah.

 

Senior now. Highschool is full of bitches. Thus I am wondering is there any place for me to go to maybe meet some actual good girls?

[Fra]

30 times in the first year!? I am proud of you, kid. You are doing the most important thing and that is approaching the young ladies. Other guys in your class are writing notes and slipping them into lockers and crap.

 

You don't have enough rejections under your belt. The more you talk, the better your words will sound and the more people will be willing to hear them. If you treat this like a job, it won't work. This has to be fun for you. Just talk to them and don't be concerned with asking them out. Just talk to them. Things will just happen. Trust me.

 

 

Haha.. Yeah.. But I think I have enough lesbian friends talkin to me about their girl issues to cover that

 

And I have a few friends that are girls.. but they taken

[Sabali]

Haha.. Yeah.. But I think I have enough lesbian friends talkin to me about their girl issues to cover that

 

And I have a few friends that are girls.. but they taken

 

 

Ok. Red alert!

 

 

Don't talk about girl issues with the girls. Leave that for their girlfriends. This stuff will only seep into the conversations with young ladies you are interested in and they will see you as their girlfriend too.

 

I am not saying don't be a good friend to your young lady friends. You should always strive to be a good friend but there are certain topics men should leave for two or more women to engage in while you keep quiet. You are probably already in too deep but nothing a little discipline won't help that includes not calling them the "B" word.

[zengirl]

LOl. He is just frustrated.

 

You are just frustrated right, man? You don't call the ladies this, do you?

 

He has yet to learn how to smile a rejection off and creep inside of the next open window.

 

It doesn't matter if he CALLS them it. His attitude is going to be present and people will understand it in a subconscious way.

 

OP, be a more positive, interesting person. That is the best tip for having a better social life, and it will solve you well all your life. Really, in HS, there are no big mores to navigate beyond popularity, and there's little you can do to change that at this point in your HS career. But becoming more positive and interesting (and you can always become moreso -- everybody can) is something that can be done every time we feel we reach a wall.

 

And HS is not full of "bitches." Everybody went to HS, everyone who turns out awesome and crap. I'm not saying people aren't more superficial and basically just personality-asleep in HS (including you). I mean, everyone is only like 20% who-they-are in HS, and the few that are a little more aware at that age (I honestly don't think we can count you among them) tend to feel even more dissonance.

 

With your negativity, I'm not surprised you get rejected. I'm not saying it wouldn't happen anyway (Damn, the social structures of HS are complex and strange). But I would work on having a better attitude before college so you can make a fresh start. Looking at a goal that's less immediate could help your attitude too.

[Fra]

Ok. The word bitches is in reference of all these girls at my school that do the stupidest **** as ways of rejection. Hell one girl right now is telling me how much she hates karma because her boyfriend isn't over his ex which he dumped and how he is up till 4 in the morning texting his ex. I am not using Bitches in terms of all women, just the stupid ones that do this dumb crap. There are many other too that have just ruined my viewpoint on girls in highschool. And generally, girls in highschool are bitches looking for the better joy ride. Also it is the internet. I dont say bitches to women. Only to my "bros" [joke]. My buds when we are ridin in the car and just joking around.

 

 

Also, I do not know why, but I always end up hearing from my secret lesbian lover about her issue with some of her girls. She says I should turn gay or get a sex change so we can go out. XD

 

Oh yeah. Apparently guys would go out with me in a heartbeat. already had 3 guys ask me out

 

But I am straight ;-;

I dun care for guys that way at all D:

 

[side note, my secret lesbian lover is one of my best friends]

Besides it is highschool none of it matters. Hop from girl to girl and have fun....

 

Well I would.. But none will say flippin yes to one date. Soo.. Any suggestions as where to go?

[Art_Critic]

Maybe you are trying too hard to be their friend instead of some guy trying to separate them from their panties...

 

It sounds like you might being friend zoned..

While being friends with a woman isn't the worst thing in the world the thing to remember is that it shouldn't be all that you work on...

They have to know that you see them as someone with romantic interests...

[Art_Critic]

You keep asking for other places to go..

Why ? Are you really in High School ?

[You'reasian]

Mkay... Well I want to meet someone to start dating here in Lowsyana before I graduate highschool. Anyone have any advice for asking a girl out?

 

Because asking them out is a bad idea if you do it 2 days -3 weeks after meeting them, and any time after that you are just a friend.

 

Soo.. I am confused as to how to ask out a girl... and where to meet any good ones.

 

Ordeal by fire, different account name...huh.

[Fra]

Uhmm Yeah I really am in High School.... And I honestly don't care about getting into their panties. It ain't in the top of my "things to do before going to college" list.

 

Also as to the previous post.. I am so confused...

[Sabali]

It doesn't matter if he CALLS them it. His attitude is going to be present and people will understand it in a subconscious way.

 

 

It goes without saying, doesn't it?

 

I heard even the most gentle of men refer to some women by this and would never actually call a woman by this but they were just frustrated with something a particular woman was doing or the dating scene. I don't get the sense that this is the real issue here. He has women friends and I doubt if he would have them if he had a bad attitude toward them.

Edited July 26, 2010 by Sabali

[Fra]

It goes without saying, doesn't it?

 

 

I didn't think they were bitches before all the stupid rejection reasons... but after about the 35th [guessing cause I really have lost count about 3 months ago] I gave up on the high school girls. Then came me using the term "bitches online"

 

Hmm.. Lets see.. anything else? Oh yeah.. I just would like one girl within 4 years of rejections to say yes.. And having some place to go to meet some good girls would be nice also... Cause I am sick of the ones at my school.

 

Edit-

 

He has women friends and I doubt if he would have them if he had a bad attitude toward them.

 

Basically what you said. It is just a bad spot now with all these rejections and frustration. My lesbian friend and I are goin out to see a movie some time this week if I get off early enough.. Should be some fun :/

Edited July 26, 2010 by Fra
Hurr derp

[Sabali]

I didn't think they were bitches before all the stupid rejection reasons... but after about the 35th [guessing cause I really have lost count about 3 months ago] I gave up on the high school girls. Then came me using the term "bitches online"

 

Hmm.. Lets see.. anything else? Oh yeah.. I just would like one girl within 4 years of rejections to say yes.. And having some place to go to meet some good girls would be nice also... Cause I am sick of the ones at my school.

 

 

You can't expect one to say yes if you are doing something or saying something not to convince them to say it. You probably have no idea what it is but it could be your attitude and you don't want to get caught up into learning to play these little dating games that adult play. It takes a lot of craftiness that you don't need right now.

 

You may be putting to much on the situation. I would just keep talking and introducing myself. Be fun and show a sense of humor. Don't worry about getting numbers or dates for right now. You are young and once you go to college special things happens, especially if you are already primed. Prime yourself and just get good with the conversation. Just talk. This will in itself leads to other areas. Follow me?

 

 

Oh yeah, stay away from texting. It will melt away some of your testoterone level.

[Fra]

You can't expect one to say yes if you are doing something or saying something not to convince them to say it. You probably have no idea what it is but it could be your attitude and you don't want to get caught up into learning to play these little dating games that adult play. It takes a lot of craftiness that you don't need right now.

 

You may be putting to much on the situation. I would just keep talking and introducing myself. Be fun and show a sense of humor. Don't worry about getting numbers or dates for right now. You are young and once you go to college special things happens, especially if you are already primed. Prime yourself and just get good with the conversation. Just talk. This will in itself leads to other areas. Follow me?

 

 

Oh yeah, stay away from texting. It will melt away some of your testoterone level.

 

I love that last part there... Actually I have issues even keeping my cellphone charged and keeping up with it... Half the time I throw it soemwhere and it dies and I am without for months at a time... Actually I need to find it for work tomorrow

 

And my issue with the talking bit is that in my experience- I really dont wont any more girls that are friends. After they reject me we still talk, I ain't an ass about it either. I just say "Sadface" and draw emo tear line on my cheek [with finger] and then things continue. But The girls I have talked to, end up liking me, but I take too long and they get a BF

 

It is a terrible frustrating cycle as I watch them bounce from one bad BF to another. Three girls come into mind right away when I say this too..

 

So yeah... :/

 

-sadface-

[zengirl]

I'm not a fan of texting, IMing, Twittering, or FBing as a means of keeping in contact with actual friends, beyond "utility communication" (meaning I won't allow it to substitute for real interaction or be stuck to it all day), but not keeping your phone charged isn't going to help you form friendships or relationships. That would be a big turn-off for me. I can't even imagine how much my text-happy students would think you were a weirdo for it. I would work on being more responsible on that area before you get older.

 

I didn't think they were bitches before all the stupid rejection reasons...

 

It bugs me when folks think that just because someone rejects them that person is a bitch/jerk, etc. As long as you reserve the right to reject someone (and most, if not all, folks reserve that right), you have to allow everyone else the same freedom. Or, do you mean, the way they did it?

 

If it was the way they did it. . . Honestly, most folks don't learn tact in HS, yourself included. Not an excuse. Just a reality.

[Fra]

I'm not a fan of texting, IMing, Twittering, or FBing as a means of keeping in contact with actual friends, beyond "utility communication" (meaning I won't allow it to substitute for real interaction or be stuck to it all day), but not keeping your phone charged isn't going to help you form friendships or relationships. That would be a big turn-off for me. I can't even imagine how much my text-happy students would think you were a weirdo for it. I would work on being more responsible on that area before you get older.

 

 

 

It bugs me when folks think that just because someone rejects them that person is a bitch/jerk, etc. As long as you reserve the right to reject someone (and most, if not all, folks reserve that right), you have to allow everyone else the same freedom. Or, do you mean, the way they did it?

 

If it was the way they did it. . . Honestly, most folks don't learn tact in HS, yourself included. Not an excuse. Just a reality.

 

 

Sayin this off a whim here... Ya seem like a feminist... >_>;;

 

Anyways cellphones are not useful for me. I take it when I gotta go somewhere, otherwise call my house I will always be here. Uhmm As for text-happy students... Uhmm Yeah. Most of my friends and the girls I have asked out are not very "text-happy" without having facebook reply on their cell also... So I mean.. Yeah I just use my laptop to keep up with them... Aint a big deal. Cellphones are hazards to your sanity anyways.

 

as for the rejection thing... How many times do I have to say this- I am saying BIATCHES out of frustration right now... Get over it. Anyways. Some of the crap these girls have said... I mean "I forgot I had a boyfriend"

 

and such. Yeah I wonder why I would be a little PO'd... Especially after not even showing up to the movie. Had my cell turned on too. Oh what about the girl that went off on the day that we were supposed to go out and was freakin making out with her "old friend form elementary school" that morning.

 

So yup. Women are perfect and I am a shovenistic[spelling is terrible I know] pig. Yup. Reality. Yup yup.

[Sabali]

I am not saying become their friend. Definitely don't work your way into the friendzone. Let me make myself more clear:

 

 

Just be concerned with talking to them as if you would ask for the number and ask them out but you don't actually ask them for their number or ask them out. Now if they like you and ask you to call them, do it but you are not going to ask for the number or ask them out. We are going to take the whole rejection thing out of the equation here because you won't be asking for anything that requires and agreement or rejection. You are just talking. You are just outgoing and fun to talk with. You won't talk about shoes or soap operas so lets make that clear as well.

 

You want to have patience and the attitude and words that comes with it. Don't ask them out for now but you have to keep talking. Good luck!

[Sabali]

Sayin this off a whim here... Ya seem like a feminist... >_>;;

 

 

Never mind her. She's read a lot of books and is dangerous. Stick with the plan.