Confused_in_canada Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 Blinsidedagainalive Wow I wasn't gonna reply to this thread but, it amazes me how many of us fall into this category. SigSev and Blindside...it's almost as if you guys have cookie cuttered my life. Except my Wife works, Kind of , and hasn't had an affair. SIGSEV, DOn't have kids! Get this sorted out first and if you can't then you 2 should part your ways.! It's just not worth it and it won't make you 2 happier. I have children with my Wife and it's just making me want to have an affair as she just sits around all f*cking day and let's the Nanny watch the kids. Don't even get me started on the amount of TV they watch... Sorry ranting again... I gotta stop doing that in here. Seriously though SigSev, put a dome on until you can sort her out....
Enchanted Girl Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 I agree - curb kicking should not be done casually. That said there are serious issues well beyond miscarriage related depression. Someone brings 12K in CC debt into a marriage and their partner pays it off. And they harp on that same partner over small purchases. This simply isn't something you would do to a partner you respect. In general his post seems to reflect a pattern of behavior where his wants/needs are not important and hers are. And a marriage lacking in respect is at risk. And this one sure seems to be. Adding kids seems like a high risk move. I'm not saying that her behavior is excusable. It is disrespectful, but depression can cause all of that. Depression, as we are talking about, isn't just a small bit of sadness someone feels. It's a lot more than that. People who have it can lose all their friends, their job, their lack of motivation to do anything or be nice to anyone. I am also wondering what happened to the allowance system he says that she and him were using before. Didn't that solve this problem initially? Why did they stop doing that?
kuma Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 Should I insist that she give up trying and fight depression instead? As far as I can tell that'll only turn me into the bad guy moreso than I already am, by taking away something she's interested in. You should try to get her to talk to a professional first. Get help and be supportive.
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