maria gostrey Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 so my ex "broke up" with me by disappearing on me 4 months ago. he cut all contact and did not respond to any of my calls and messages. a couple of days ago he sent me a pathetic message on facebook that didn't really answer any of my questions. thing is; when he disappeared, i was anxious to know why he felt the need to cut me out of his life. i later, through facebook, realized the reason; he met another girl. i've suffered and hurt a lot and am trying to move on since he very obviously has. i just feel like i need to ask him about what happened on his end near the end of our relationship. i need to know why her and not me. why he didn't respect me enough to break it off before starting something with her. but i don't know how to best approach him about it. his message was really lame and didn't answer the last one i sent him, but at least he has reached has quit his disappearing act. how can i respond to him? should i even bother? i want to know what went on in his mind and why he treated me the way he did. whats the best way to do it while retaining my dignity?
jsa100100 Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 Honestly, him doing something like this is extremely cowardly and absolutely repulsive. I understand that your pride must be hurt but he has no capacity in giving you any answers that may satisfy you. Don't torture yourself by trying to receive an answer from him, it'll only make you suffer more. Please understand that you are extremely valuable and have much to offer the right person. What an ******* like this does to you does NOT define you or your worth in any way.
cavedweller Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 maria, I think you need to 'block' and 'delete' him out of you life and move on..
Ilovecake Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 so my ex "broke up" with me by disappearing on me 4 months ago. he cut all contact and did not respond to any of my calls and messages. a couple of days ago he sent me a pathetic message on facebook that didn't really answer any of my questions. thing is; when he disappeared, i was anxious to know why he felt the need to cut me out of his life. i later, through facebook, realized the reason; he met another girl. i've suffered and hurt a lot and am trying to move on since he very obviously has. i just feel like i need to ask him about what happened on his end near the end of our relationship. i need to know why her and not me. why he didn't respect me enough to break it off before starting something with her. but i don't know how to best approach him about it. his message was really lame and didn't answer the last one i sent him, but at least he has reached has quit his disappearing act. how can i respond to him? should i even bother? i want to know what went on in his mind and why he treated me the way he did. whats the best way to do it while retaining my dignity? You would only hurt yourself by asking him any of those questions you really don't need to and definitely don't want to hear the answers to any of those questions because they will just ruin your self esteem and prolong the process of getting over such betrayal. The fact that he's that much of a scumbag to not even have the balls to break up with you is all the information you need about him.
Nedved Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 Your ex is a coward and in time you'l see your better off without him. Dont let him hurt you anymore as your just prolonging your pain. You dont need anymore answers and you certaintly dont need him.
stella alpina Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 You feel you need all kinds of answers now but you will regret asking them when you are over him and this so don't ... they will not matter in a few months and you will not even know what the fuss was about , delete all contacts you may have and move on holding your head high
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