Author OrdealByFire Posted July 28, 2010 Author Posted July 28, 2010 I don't think she does. If she thinks she does, I'm pretty sure she doesn't really because I wouldn't be at all surprised if he had an extra account or two somewhere. And I'm not sure why he goes for black girls. Some fetish? I'm not sure... well, if that's a fetish... I guess it would be. My mom said something about my dad having a black girlfriend in highschool though, so it's not a sudden thing. I remember when that Tiger Woods thing was in the news, I was at dinner with a lot of my family, and my mom was saying jokes everyone's probably heard by now, "What, 18 holes wasn't enough, Tiger?" and everything around my dad. I looked at him when she was saying it and he just looked like... I can't even explain. He was essentially smirking though. I think my mom's in such denial, she's tricked herself into believing that he really isn't cheating. Whenever she talks about some guy that was caught cheating, she says "That's so disgusting.", obviously, including a whole bunch of HAPPY words in between. I don't know what's going on in my mom's head, but oh well. It's her life. If she wants to live every day realizing she's being cheated on, that's on her. She also wears her wedding rings daily, while my dad hasn't ever worn his I don't think.
txsilkysmoothe Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 You're 19 and your mom tells you where you can and cannot go?
Author OrdealByFire Posted July 28, 2010 Author Posted July 28, 2010 You're 19 and your mom tells you where you can and cannot go? Mhm. Guess I'm her form of control because she can't monitor my dad at all. Believe me, it sucks a fatty.
Corporate Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 I think my mom's in such denial, she's tricked herself into believing that he really isn't cheating. Whenever she talks about some guy that was caught cheating, she says "That's so disgusting.", obviously, including a whole bunch of HAPPY words in between. I don't know what's going on in my mom's head, but oh well. It's her life. If she wants to live every day realizing she's being cheated on, that's on her. How do you know your parents are not sleeping together?
Author OrdealByFire Posted July 28, 2010 Author Posted July 28, 2010 Are not sleeping together? Because they ... sleep in separate rooms? And my mom's pretty openly said almost straight up that they don't. Do anything. She's told me even "He can't get it up." because he's diabetic. So yeah. That was her explanation as to why it's "impossible" that he's cheating.
LucreziaBorgia Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 You know, it is entirely possible that your mother suspects or even knows (but tries to shield you from that reality) but really doesn't care. From what you are describing it doesn't sound like their marriage has enough of an intimate aspect that cheating would matter either way to her.
oldfashiongirlie Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 I am so sorry for you, just cause I was in your exact same position. 5 years ago I found out my Dad was cheating on my mom with an ex gf. For almost a week I didn't know what to do., until I decided to talk to my aunt and grandma they helped me decide what to do, and i decided to tell my Mom upfront just cause If I were her I would need to know even if it hurts. My mom and Dad had a long going failed marriage, but my mom concentrated her life around work and children. While he pretty much concentrated on being a lazy cheater. I'd say find someone trustworthy or even a teraphist or school teacher that can help you make the right decision. For me at least it was the best decision I've made, my mom is so much happier now, and she doesn't have to carry dead weights. Good luck to you, and believe me when I say you're not alone...
HappyAtLast Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 Young man, you know far too much about your parents marriage. Regardless of whether one or both of them are cheating, your mother should not be discussing their s*x life with you. That being said, it is their life. You said you are going away to school soon, focus on that and stay out of your parents marriage. You will find as you get older that people stay in all sorts of situations that you or I may not understand.
Dexter Morgan Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 Mhm. Guess I'm her form of control because she can't monitor my dad at all. Believe me, it sucks a fatty. are you paying rent?
Author OrdealByFire Posted July 28, 2010 Author Posted July 28, 2010 Of course not. I go to school, I don't have a job.
HappyAtLast Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 I am confused as to why going to school and having a job are mutually exclusive things?
xpaperxcutx Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 I am confused as to why going to school and having a job are mutually exclusive things? Hey, I go to school and I don't have a job. But then again, my trust fund from parents are enough to last me for a good bit... Eh, OBF, I think you should leave your parents' affairs to themselves. If your mother is as stubborn and in denial as she is, it's impossible to convince her that your father is anything but a saint. Even if she were convinced? What would you propose her do? File for divorce? I think that's the one reason she's living in denial. Turning a blind eye is better than facing the truth. As frustrating as it sounds, you're just going to have to tough it out so that when you transfer you can move into the dorms and leave your family drama behind.
Author OrdealByFire Posted July 29, 2010 Author Posted July 29, 2010 Just now they had a nice little argument. My mom flipped out - for no reason - because my dad didn't say anything to her when he got home. He NEVER says anything to her. Ever. All of a sudden she cares? Also a few weeks ago they had to go one of my mom's co-worker's birthdays, and a baby shower the next day. My mom freaked out at him and cried saying "It's too much to ask for you to spend the weekend with me." Apparently she was pleased that they spent about 5 hours together total those two days.
twinsmom Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 I think Corporate and Ordeal By Fire are one and the same. What do you think, Owl??
Corporate Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 I think Corporate and Ordeal By Fire are one and the same. What do you think, Owl?? :mad: :mad:
twinsmom Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 Oh, please..Do you think no one else has noticed the obvious back and forth between the two posters? I think Owl hit the nail on the head with the way-too-mature demeanor of the 19 year-old poster. I think there are a couple of bored people with extra time on their hands posting in this thread and many others. (25 posts per day since joining??) Hey, I could be wrong. Wouldn't be the first time. But I stand by my intuition..
Author OrdealByFire Posted July 29, 2010 Author Posted July 29, 2010 i literally lol'd for five minutes after reading that.
Corporate Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 i literally lol'd for five minutes after reading that. I bet you're flattered to be confused as me, Corporate.
Corporate Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 Do you really think I sound like some teenager with Bieber hair? (No offense to anyone out there with Bieber hair).
spriggig Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 Do you really think I sound like some teenager with Bieber hair? (No offense to anyone out there with Bieber hair). WTF is "bieber hair"?
twinsmom Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 No, I think Ordeal by Fire is someone far older than 19, and you are his cyber-kick. (That's "sidekick" for you "youngsters"). You already messed up when you replied to yourself instead of OBF... Yawn...
twinsmom Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 I bet you're flattered to be confused as me, Corporate. Bingo..I'll bet it DOES get confusing at times...
Corporate Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 WTF is "bieber hair"? Well, then, you need to watch this: And, then watch this: And, then watch this:
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