Jrseriel Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 I've been dating this girl for a few months after we had talked for a year non stop. But I dated another girl so we stopped for a month . I feel very strongly about sexual acts and morals. And i dated this girl where it was fake so I told myself I wouldn't date another girl with a history. So I chose her . Because I knew she hasn't but when me and the girl that I talked for a year I fell in love with her and she told me that in that month that we stopped talking she got drunk one night and she's underage. And she for fingered. Two this I feel very strongly about. I had never thought that she would ever do either of these things . She doesn't regret the finding and she does regret the getting drunk. And she says she wouldn't do either again. THE fingering she would do again if she had a relationship with them and when she did she wasn't in a relationship. She said she was just doing both of them for fun. AND now I don't know what to think
Menafee Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 Well she must really like you if she decided to tell you even though she knew you'd be upset with her. It would've been easier for her to just keep it secret but she didnt so that should tell you something, and remember everyone makes mistakes and everyone i know do some kind of self-destructed thing when they're really upset.
Author Jrseriel Posted July 26, 2010 Author Posted July 26, 2010 But its been 4 months since it happened and she said that heer morals have changed and she's not like that any more
Untouchable_Fire Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 But its been 4 months since it happened and she said that heer morals have changed and she's not like that any more She is not telling you the truth. I'm sure she thinks that she has changed... but she hasn't. The same insecurities and issues that drove her to get drunk and mess around. If she had the same moral convictions you do... she would not have allowed that to happen. So... If you choose to move forward with her, you need to forgive her and not expect her to be faithful.
Enchanted Girl Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 She is not telling you the truth. I'm sure she thinks that she has changed... but she hasn't. The same insecurities and issues that drove her to get drunk and mess around. If she had the same moral convictions you do... she would not have allowed that to happen. So... If you choose to move forward with her, you need to forgive her and not expect her to be faithful. I think he was trying to say her morals have changed, in the sense that she used to be a "good girl" who didn't do those things and now she thinks they are fun and would do them again if she could. She also wasn't unfaithful to him. They weren't dating when she did these things.
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