Silvermantis19 Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 I dated my ex for almost 2 years, and in that two years we did so many things together. From road trips to see her friends, to spending time together at the beach, to meeting eachother's families. My ex and I had a some-what rough start to 2010, pressure from school and work made her tense, though I tried to comfort her and we had a minor argument over Valentine's day because of a scheduling conflict, but I apologized for anything said and we still had a decent night. In February, I admit to her, that because of a scholarship falling through, I had to take classes at another college for the spring semester and I didn't admit it before, because I was embarassed. She got upset and broke up with me but came back the next day. However, in March, I was on my way to her house and got caught in traffic. I text her saying "6-10 is clear huh?". She calls me back and asks if I am mad at her, I tell her "no, just bummed out that I'm stuck in traffic". But by the time I get to her house, I find her on the couch with arms folded. She sends me home and an hour later breaks up with me over the phone, stating that she didn't like my "tone of voice". We were best friends and so close for the longest time, we did so much together and even up until that morning, she told me she loved me and didn't want to lose me. What happened? it's been 4 months and she shut me out like I was nothing. She threw all the great things we did away so quickly and I don't know why.
GrayClouds Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 I dated my ex for almost 2 years, and in that two years we did so many things together. From road trips to see her friends, to spending time together at the beach, to meeting eachother's families. My ex and I had a some-what rough start to 2010, pressure from school and work made her tense, though I tried to comfort her and we had a minor argument over Valentine's day because of a scheduling conflict, but I apologized for anything said and we still had a decent night. In February, I admit to her, that because of a scholarship falling through, I had to take classes at another college for the spring semester and I didn't admit it before, because I was embarassed. She got upset and broke up with me but came back the next day. However, in March, I was on my way to her house and got caught in traffic. I text her saying "6-10 is clear huh?". She calls me back and asks if I am mad at her, I tell her "no, just bummed out that I'm stuck in traffic". But by the time I get to her house, I find her on the couch with arms folded. She sends me home and an hour later breaks up with me over the phone, stating that she didn't like my "tone of voice". We were best friends and so close for the longest time, we did so much together and even up until that morning, she told me she loved me and didn't want to lose me. What happened? it's been 4 months and she shut me out like I was nothing. She threw all the great things we did away so quickly and I don't know why. Way back in in earlier 2010 she was distancing herself from you, and what you say as little bumps was her cutting another string. Hard to say why but she was looking for a reason to cut the final string. Unless there is something your not saying then her anger is most likely covering up her guilt of breaking in off and/or of something worst, another guy. It time to let go and work on healing. Read the following to help you do just that: So you want a second chance? Sorry about your loss but it will get better.
spyyder Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 (edited) Your ex seems to break up with you over anything. This is a sign of someone that is way too controlling, very intolerant and abuses your relationship for what she wants. I know this because I use to be like that, as hard as it is for me to admit. I'd say that you need to break up and move on. Perhaps you can give her a go later on when enough time has passed to achieve a clean slate, but anything before that is pointless. She isn't going to chance until she realizes her mistakes, and by what you've said, it hasn't happened yet. Also going NC will allow her to remember & miss the times you had, which will definitely happen at some point - this will encourage her to fix herself and perhaps give you a call one day (that is your cue). Edited July 26, 2010 by spyyder
A Hot Mess Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 How many more times can we expect to see this thread? He's already posted it twice (this is the third). http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t238906/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t238377/
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