angielove Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 Long story short... Gorgeous English boy. Dated a little, made out a lot - which was wonderful. Had sex once - which was VERY awkward and baaaaaaad (lol!). Told him I liked him. He backed off, said he wasn't looking for anything serious. Didn't see him for a while. Now we work together so I see him about once a week. Last week, I drunkenly made out with him. He said he'd like to see me when we are both sober. Worked with him the next day, he was unusually flirty and chatty. He is leaving for England for good in December. I really just want to make out with him a lot (again). But I know this will lead to *other things* and I will also start to reallllllly like him again. BUT, life is short riiiight?!... so shouldn't I just do whatever the heck I feel like doing? Or should I hold back to prevent myself from inevitable heartache? Any advice?? xx
zengirl Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 I hate the whole "Life is short" thing because too often people use it to justify what they want to do in the short-term without any eye for how it fits with their "bigger picture." So, it depends on how you mean it. Really, I think you should do what you want. But make sure you do what you really want and what's most true to the person you want to be. If what you want is to fool around with the guy, then fool around with the guy. But look at the whole picture. It's a cost-benefit scenario that is entirely yours to judge. I know I'm at the point in my life where I don't make out with boys I know I have no future with, but that's me. I have no idea where you are with your life, what you want from it, how hurt you'll be when he inevitably leaves, how hurt you'll be if he rejects you, how attached to him you'll get, how much you like making out with him, how likely making out with him will make you forget to focus on other, potentially important-to-you things, how likely you are to miss out on other romances if you put your energy towards him, how this impacts your work situation, your well-being, or your sense of self. And that's just the tip of the icerberg I can think of. My shorter advice: If it's against your better judgment, don't do it. That's something I've learned, personally. If it's not against your better judgment, what's the fuss?
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