noel2 Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 The MM I'm involved with says there is nothing wrong at home, his relationship with me has "nothing to do with his wife", its all about me and how he's "drawn to me". I'm confused, not stupid, something doesn't make sense or add up but I can't figure it out. Anyway, I've known this man for quite a few years as a customer at the place I work (its not what you think, lol). We had never crossed the line so to speak but each of us always knew there was some sort of connection, finally he asked me to meet him for dinner, which I declined. After a couple weeks of serious flirting through text's we finally got together and 2 months later, here we are, sleeping together and continuously texting one another daily. I just have a gut feeling something isn't right and I cant figure out what it is. Help!!!!
anne1707 Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 It doesn't add up because he wants the best of both worlds and has made it clear that he is happy with his wife and will not leave her. If you want more then it is highly unlikely you will get more. But then you have already been told this already: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=239076
Author noel2 Posted July 25, 2010 Author Posted July 25, 2010 You are right, I did post a thread before but couldn't figure out how to read the responses so I posted a new one, I'm still very new on here so I'm still learning.
2sunny Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 stop being defensive and start doing what good people here are opening your eyes to... reality. he does this because YOU allow it. stop allowing it. don't date married men. he's told you in MM language that he;s not leaving his W. isn't that enough for you to stop seeing him? he doesn't want you - he wants intimacy and sex. are you willing to settle for a man that will use you for THAT with no intention of dating or marrying you? he will suck the life out of you for HIS own benefit and pleasure. why would you want a man that selfish? find an available man - not one who has told you he belongs to another woman already.
whichwayisup Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 I replied on your other thread too.. Bottomline is, this guy is NEVER leaving his wife so you are wasting your time, energy and love on someone who looks at you as second fiddle. Read up in this section and see what you're up against. I hope you take in what others have gone through and save yourself alot of heartache and pain, end it as soon as you can, grieve and heal. Your MM is no friend of yours, if he was, nothing ever would have happened between you two until he divorced his wife. And he's told you he ain't leaving.
cavedweller Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 noel2, You are nothing to him..If you want proof stop having sex with him and watch how fast he will hit the door.. If you cut him off he will drop you in a heartbeat..
2sunny Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 sex with him too? why? why do that to yourself when he's been clear about his willingness to give you absolutely NOTHING. you short change yourself. you spend time and energy on an unavailable man and it keeps you from finding a man who is willing to give you the whole package. to stay means you have no time and attention for other possibilities.
Hazyhead Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 I just have a gut feeling something isn't right and I cant figure out what it is. Help!!!! Uhm... could it be that you're sleeping with a married man? The question that you are asking is not the one you should be asking. It matters not his reasoning - what's important is why you are choosing to waste your time building a relationship with him? If you accept less you get less. Does he give you what you want Noel? Fully?
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