BellaBellaBella Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 my dog died yesterday and now my husband wants to start looking for puppies. I need time to grieve. I told him no.
Jilly Bean Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 Oh, honey. SO sorry to hear this. Pets are often closer than family. Agreed - way too soon. He's trying to take away your pain, so I'm sure he's well-intended. He needs to know you need time...
D-Lish Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 (edited) OMG, if one of my dog's died, I would never be able to replace him or her, I wouldn't even consider it. After my guys go, that's it- no more animals for me until I am into retirement age. I love my pups more than anything- but once they are gone, there is no replacing either of them. It doesn't work that way unfortunately. Edited July 25, 2010 by D-Lish
Author BellaBellaBella Posted July 25, 2010 Author Posted July 25, 2010 When I get another it will be a rescue. He is off his rock, if he thinks replacing my beloved Beans with a puppy is going to work. I get he is trying to be sweet. Part him just doesn't get it.
quankanne Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 just tell him thank you, and that when the time is right, y'all will go down to a rescue center to adopt the newest member of the family. If he keeps insisting that it be now, tell him to back off, that you'll let him know when. He means well, but bless his heart, he doesn't quite understand that the whole timing thing ...
Circular Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 I remember when my dog died. I had him for so many years, I don't think anything in my life hit me as hard as the day I had to put him down. I think it took me a few months before I started getting better about it, it really shook me to the core. Tell your husband you appreciate the gesture, he's only trying to make you feel better for your loss, but that you need time to grieve and show respect for something you loved.
Jilly Bean Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 I get he is trying to be sweet. Part him just doesn't get it. He's a dude, Bella. He just wants this to go away, and thinks this is the solution. I got a really cool laser-engraved granite headstone for a pet I lost a few years ago, and buried out back. I love seeing in there. It's a pic of his actual head, with his name and birth and death dates, and then I wrote a little poem that says, "Not a day went by you were not loved, and not a day will pass you will not be missed."
Author BellaBellaBella Posted July 25, 2010 Author Posted July 25, 2010 Thank you all! Your right he is a dude and he wants to fix this. He can't.
Hot Carl Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 This is a major red flag. He's clearly trying to control you. I wouldn't stand for it. Send him packing! And tell him where he can stick that puppy.
Jilly Bean Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 Bella - you should adopt Hot Carl when you're ready. Yes, he drinks, doesn't pick up after himself, and can be temperamental, but he's red, white and blue.
Lovelybird Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 Jilly Bella I am sure Hot Carl is talking about another thread sorry for the doggy
D-Lish Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 Bella - you should adopt Hot Carl when you're ready. Yes, he drinks, doesn't pick up after himself, and can be temperamental. ...And he pees and poops on the carpet if you don't get home in time to let him out:cool:
mickleb Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 So sorry to hear about your dog, Bella. I lost mine a month ago and it didn't really hit me until about three weeks had passed. There are some great articles online that can help you to understand that it is ok for you to take the time you need to to grieve. Many people don't understand how big a deal this can be. Don't feel foolish for needing to process it fully. I wish I could give you a tip for avoiding the pain but that's, sadly, not possible. Tell your husband how it's going to be, hold onto your child and comfort your other dog, at this time, too. Take care. x
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