saturnfell Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 Here's the detail: I've been dating my ex for 10 months now. It was an amazing relationship. We were the couple everyone was jealous of. The way we looked at one another, our love, always spending our time including one another. Recently, I asked if we could live together. He was skeptical and wasn't sure. He does not deal well with pressure... he needs to make these types of decisions on his own time without outside infleunce. This was difficult for me because I felt as though i was being rejected. He told me I didn't need to pressure him because we both wanted the same things and they would happen. Well, my friends, family... they all told me to put a timeline on it. So I did. This added stress and frustration. I was on edge about it when I didn't need to be. Now my ex was very happy. He would tell me how amaazing I was, perfect, how he loved that I take care of him. He loved being with me and spending time together, etc. I believed in him and everything he said to me. Well, last Wednesdaynight we had a fight and I said there were issues and we needed to work them out. He said he didn't think there were issues. Well, the next day I went over to see him. He told me something needed to change and he needed a break to figure things out. He said he didn't think there were issues but because I said there were that maybe he needed to start thinking there were. I was caught off guard. He says he just needs some time away and that as difficult as it will be we shouldn't talk. I understand the concept of needing time and space. But I sit here knowing I need to trust in him and what he said and that he just needs time. Obviously I start to worry about the all different scenarios, but since I love and trust him, I cannot wory about that. When he said this, he told me that he wants to see us end up together again. It's not easy to stare at my phone and not call. I thought about throwing it in a river. I wonder what he's thinking, if he misses me... all that. I feel as though I'm a fool because I know it will work and we'll get back together. What's he thinking? What is he trying to achieve?
LucreziaBorgia Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 A 'break' is what they ask for when they are about 80% ready to break up. The 20% is the part you hear that promises a future, etc. By the time the 'break' comes up, it will start snowballing to the point of becoming a breakup. Honestly, if someone asks for a break the best thing you can do is ask for a breakup. There really is no point in hanging on after you get the 'break/time/space' thing. They don't ask for those to figure out if they love you. They ask for those to figure out why they don't anymore. Don't hang your hopes on 20% of false hope against the 80% of bleak reality.
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