iMa_zOmbIe Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 Ok so me & my guy been together for almost 2 years & have a baby together.. a few months ago i was visiting family & he cheated on me with a hooker who he paid $100 for a 15 min bj.. let me start by saying after i had my baby i started being distant from my boyfriend.. i knew he loved me but he just wasnt doin enuff for me & our baby.. so it kinda didnt surprise me that much wen he cheated.. i decided to give him 1 more chance for our son since he seemed sincere in his apology.. but since i found out my self esteem has plumetted to an all time low.. i just dont know how to get myself out of this rut that i am in.. I do feel like hes serious about us now.. & now i am too.. i guess it was kind of a rude awakening for me.. i realized i did want him in my life.. but now i feel like everything im doing is wrong & that he might just be a very good liar & want to keep me around for our son.. idk, even tho he's given me all the passwords to all his accounts including his cell phone accnt.. i dont check it anymore cuz it just drove me crazy.. i guess what i really need help on is my trust issues.. is there anyway to get past this other than seeking counsiling?? i've suggested that to him & he is all for it.. but we cant afford it now since he's the only one working & im raising our son.. If anyone could give me some much needed advice i'd be soo appreciative!!
Not strong enough Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 Honestly, the best thing i think you can do, is just sit down with him, make your point clear, tell him what you need from him, and see what he needs from you, and try to reconnect, because no matter what you do you can't control his actions all the time. So what you need to do, is make him want to be with you, if he wants to be with you, i feel sure if you can get his affection back, truely get it back it will ease your worries. Just remember the little things you do make the biggest impact. Trust issues seems to end people quickly, so i hope you guys get through them. I hope nothing but the best for you two : )
ngo_ng Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 My name is NG, and I approve this message! Not_strong_enough I like you already, you are very optimistic about things, everything should be taken in consideration if you truly love someone and want to make it worthwhile. To OP, if you and your bf love each other then work it out, it shouldnt be a problem. I don't want to go speculate too much but maybe he felt a bit unwanted due to the fact that you are now spending more energy on the baby and less on him. I know you can make things work
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