ALombard Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 Hey guys and gals, I am finally back! I don't mean back here, although it has been a few days since I've posted anything. I mean literally back! I am finally who I was before I started dating my ex. I have more confidence than before, I am focused on my future again, and all together I haven't had any issues with the ladies since I told my ex to go "f*ck herself". <--Actually that was a pretty amazing moment in my life, never thought I could do that. So for all of you who are here, withering in pain, waking up everyday praying for your ex to be at your door, etc. STOP IT NOW! Throw on some good music, dress to impress and if you're weekend is coming up...GO OUT! Grab some friends and paint the town. I can't believe you how much it helped me. I'll be honest, all the steps people tell you to take on here help, but it is really up to you and when you decide to put your foot down. If you're still in contact with your ex, stop. I did it all, worked out, took up hobbies, went out, focused on worked, dated...yeah all of it...even started therapy. I went NC for a few weeks, broke it, started it again. Basically everything everyone has done on here. I took every word I read and used it, it helped, but it didn't help me get OVER my ex it helped me regain my self respect. So when my ex decided to pull some sh*t, I, without hesitation told her to go to hell and leave me alone. She called me a few days ago to apologize, did I answer? Nope. She texted me saying she was sorry...what did I say? Cool, now leave me the f*ck alone. Have I heard from her since? Eh, once. Do I care anymore? Nope. It's beautiful people, find ways to get control of your emotions and gain back your self respect. If your ex keeps contacting you tell them to go jump off a bridge. Realize that you're life does not revolve around your ex, your life is yours. Be happy, you could die tomorrow.
lullaby Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 Hey guys and gals, I am finally back! I don't mean back here, although it has been a few days since I've posted anything. I mean literally back! I am finally who I was before I started dating my ex. I have more confidence than before, I am focused on my future again, and all together I haven't had any issues with the ladies since I told my ex to go "f*ck herself". <--Actually that was a pretty amazing moment in my life, never thought I could do that. So for all of you who are here, withering in pain, waking up everyday praying for your ex to be at your door, etc. STOP IT NOW! Throw on some good music, dress to impress and if you're weekend is coming up...GO OUT! Grab some friends and paint the town. I can't believe you how much it helped me. I'll be honest, all the steps people tell you to take on here help, but it is really up to you and when you decide to put your foot down. If you're still in contact with your ex, stop. I did it all, worked out, took up hobbies, went out, focused on worked, dated...yeah all of it...even started therapy. I went NC for a few weeks, broke it, started it again. Basically everything everyone has done on here. I took every word I read and used it, it helped, but it didn't help me get OVER my ex it helped me regain my self respect. So when my ex decided to pull some sh*t, I, without hesitation told her to go to hell and leave me alone. She called me a few days ago to apologize, did I answer? Nope. She texted me saying she was sorry...what did I say? Cool, now leave me the f*ck alone. Have I heard from her since? Eh, once. Do I care anymore? Nope. It's beautiful people, find ways to get control of your emotions and gain back your self respect. If your ex keeps contacting you tell them to go jump off a bridge. Realize that you're life does not revolve around your ex, your life is yours. Be happy, you could die tomorrow. Well said!!!!! I did all those things too. I'm still in contact with my ex but don't have hopes of getting back anymore and if he does, well, it's his problem. I'm meeting new people and living my life, the dark side is gone and I'm moving on
Thorgs Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 Well said!!!!! I did all those things too. I'm still in contact with my ex but don't have hopes of getting back anymore and if he does, well, it's his problem. I'm meeting new people and living my life, the dark side is gone and I'm moving on I am so jealous of you!!
lullaby Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 I am so jealous of you!! You'll get there Thorgs. I'm still in the process but it does get better. Just try to put everything in perspective, the pain you're having because of your ex and what life can bring. Sure it hurts but when you see that there isn't much left to do at the moment, you get tired and slowly begin to move on. I'm doing that and still in contact with my ex but I realized I'm not willing to wait and work for it, yes, he's still in my life but I don't want him back at the moment so it doesn't hurt. Hope you're doing fine
SilkRose Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 Hey guys and gals, I am finally back! I don't mean back here, although it has been a few days since I've posted anything. I mean literally back! I am finally who I was before I started dating my ex. I have more confidence than before, I am focused on my future again, and all together I haven't had any issues with the ladies since I told my ex to go "f*ck herself". <--Actually that was a pretty amazing moment in my life, never thought I could do that. So for all of you who are here, withering in pain, waking up everyday praying for your ex to be at your door, etc. STOP IT NOW! Throw on some good music, dress to impress and if you're weekend is coming up...GO OUT! Grab some friends and paint the town. I can't believe you how much it helped me. I'll be honest, all the steps people tell you to take on here help, but it is really up to you and when you decide to put your foot down. If you're still in contact with your ex, stop. I did it all, worked out, took up hobbies, went out, focused on worked, dated...yeah all of it...even started therapy. I went NC for a few weeks, broke it, started it again. Basically everything everyone has done on here. I took every word I read and used it, it helped, but it didn't help me get OVER my ex it helped me regain my self respect. So when my ex decided to pull some sh*t, I, without hesitation told her to go to hell and leave me alone. She called me a few days ago to apologize, did I answer? Nope. She texted me saying she was sorry...what did I say? Cool, now leave me the f*ck alone. Have I heard from her since? Eh, once. Do I care anymore? Nope. It's beautiful people, find ways to get control of your emotions and gain back your self respect. If your ex keeps contacting you tell them to go jump off a bridge. Realize that you're life does not revolve around your ex, your life is yours. Be happy, you could die tomorrow. Congrats OP for getting to a better place. I'm nowhere near it, glad to see a positive post.
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