pdub90 Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 First off I know this is a weird question and probably doesn't have an answer but I have to try. I just want to know if anyone knows how to prevent themselves from falling for people. My life has been full of heartbreak after heartbreak and I'm tired of it. If I could I would lose all desire for love or sex entirely. I figure that's probably impossible, but does anyone know any advice on how to lose the desire for a relationship?
Nikki Sahagin Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 Hi pdub. I can relate to this post a lot. The problem is, unless you are born with a natural aversion to love and sex, you will probably always seek out relationships. Human beings are naturally social and crave companionship. I do believe some people like loner types and hermits prefer to be alone but that is normally due to an issue such as trauma, disapointment, anxiety, depression. In fact I think only depression can cause a person that craves love and relationships to go off of them entirely (as well as many other things.) I don't think this is the answer. If you are weary of relationships/love/sex feel free to share your story with us; you may find it helpful and may even notice patterns. Otherwise don't give up on love but focus on different kinds of love; friendship, family, pets, causes, volunteering. I don't know what you've been through but i'd say anyone with a heart can't give up on love but I can relate to your desire to do so and sometimes I feel it too - thats why I suggested what works for me. Forgetting about relationships and conventional love and extend your love in other ways.
SilkRose Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 First off I know this is a weird question and probably doesn't have an answer but I have to try. I just want to know if anyone knows how to prevent themselves from falling for people. My life has been full of heartbreak after heartbreak and I'm tired of it. If I could I would lose all desire for love or sex entirely. I figure that's probably impossible, but does anyone know any advice on how to lose the desire for a relationship? I googled this very topic today so its funny to see a post about it.
smk Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 TBH - being in love is the greatest feeling in this world - i know when we go through a break up its a nightmare but you know what love is indescribable and I wish that I get the chance to love someone again as hard as that may seem for me... I never believed in love until I met my ex, and she taught me what it was like to love and be loved in return and I wouldnt change that or give it up for anything in this world...
Feelin Frisky Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 First off I know this is a weird question and probably doesn't have an answer but I have to try. I just want to know if anyone knows how to prevent themselves from falling for people. My life has been full of heartbreak after heartbreak and I'm tired of it. If I could I would lose all desire for love or sex entirely. I figure that's probably impossible, but does anyone know any advice on how to lose the desire for a relationship? Maybe you should work towards getting some kind of public life. It will toughen you and you will be the object of other people's admiration rather than the other way around. Your ambitions and independence must become precious to you to the point of maintaining them at all costs even the cutting loose of a lover if that person starts knocking you off you hard-earned new identity. This should not be looked at as pay back for your heartaches just a recognition that you may have been low self esteem clingy one in the past where SO's eventually felt the need to jettison you. It's a great thing to have love in your life but it sounds like you are the one who's always falling for someone else rather than attracting them to love and respect you.
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