Dexter Morgan Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 As the OW, once in awhile he's with his family a few times a year. He'll tell me he won't call me until after everyone's gone. This is one aspect I don't like and want to stop. you really have nothing to demand out of this situation. I thought you were going to move on and find someone single? or was that just all talk to make us believe you had the strength to leave him, when your posts here indicate otherwise?
Dexter Morgan Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 How difficult is it to phone and say, really busy, I'm fine? I just have to ask. How old are you? What is with the questions you always ask on this forum? "how difficult" is it to phone him and say this? You know the answer to that already......its not. but you ask these, I think, not expecting real advice. You either are posting just to see what kind of responses you get, or you have a real problem and need counseling.
Author Mombot Posted July 24, 2010 Author Posted July 24, 2010 I had definitely thought of that, or calling her myself. I decided to table it for awhile and give myself number one priority, and I will tell him tomorrow that I am not going to go on the NC list when his family is around, and ask for some documentation of what's going on.
BB07 Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 I had definitely thought of that, or calling her myself. I decided to table it for awhile and give myself number one priority, and I will tell him tomorrow that I am not going to go on the NC list when his family is around, and ask for some documentation of what's going on. It's about time! (BB standing up and clapping.) Even better don't ask....get it yourself. Mombot, you don't want to believe it, but he is playing you. I see the signs the similarities to my situation. You probabaly are thinking I'm full of ****e and nothing about your situation is similar to my rude awakening, but sadly it is. I think part of you, doesn't want to know the truth, cause then you have to face it. I think that is why you keep ignoring me, because you don't want to face the possibility that he is lying to you. Do something about it, don't be played for a fool and waste days of your precious life trusting him so much that you don't bother about getting the facts confirmed. If he was telling the truth, that it's all even better and you can base your decisions on that.
2sunny Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 I had definitely thought of that, or calling her myself. I decided to table it for awhile and give myself number one priority, and I will tell him tomorrow that I am not going to go on the NC list when his family is around, and ask for some documentation of what's going on. it's too vague. demand to see his divorce papers including when the court date is set for it to be final. don't ask demand. you have a right to know... if he won't - he's still married and trying to get back together with his W.
GreenEyedLady Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 [/b] it's too vague. demand to see his divorce papers including when the court date is set for it to be final. don't ask demand. you have a right to know... if he won't - he's still married and trying to get back together with his W. OMG if she has to do this: just break it off and don't date him. He's going to think you're nuts if you do this and he's getting divorced. GEL
2sunny Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 Yeah, or he'll think she's completely nuts and suspicious and he already got enough of that when he was married. WTH? EEG who cares what he thinks... he's already proven he's willing to lie. btw he's STILL married. and the OP referred to herself as the OW. that in itself is reason for him to ask her to lay low while family is sniffing around... if he wants to continue to see her he should be willing to show "proof" that he has the paperwork that shows his divorce should be final shortly. OP needs to look out for her best interest.
Author Mombot Posted July 24, 2010 Author Posted July 24, 2010 So, I shouldn't ask him about the separation. I do know he's not anywhere near her 11 months a year.
2sunny Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 So, I shouldn't ask him about the separation. I do know he's not anywhere near her 11 months a year. who cares where he is. he either proves he's divorced or he doesn't because he's not. i'm not sure why you'd date him at all until his D is FINAL. why would you want to date an unavailable man?
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