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Is that some guy line? No, he had custom shoes for the occasion They were lime green and decorated with, "Yes, we did!" (Would've been depressing shoes had Obama lost, I guess. . . :) ) Guess I should've mentioned that part so it didn't sound so asinine.

Lol, that is one of the most popular guy's pick up line that would guarantee a slap on the face unless the woman has exceptional sense of humor. We just joke about it but I have never seen anyone actually used it. :D

 

Anyway, you sound like a natural at picking up guys. I guess women are just better at noticing details to make a comment on. I have problem with finding something to start a conversation.

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Lol, that is one of the most popular guy's pick up line that would guarantee a slap on the face unless the woman has exceptional sense of humor. We just joke about it but I have never seen anyone actually used it. :D

 

Anyway, you sound like a natural at picking up guys. I guess women are just better at noticing details to make a comment on. I have problem with finding something to start a conversation.

 

FWIW, I attribute my attention to detail to being a writer, not a woman. Being observant was completely something I learned in my BFA writing program. And the details I notice are usually the reason (well part of it, the guy has to be cute too) I want to go up to the guy. Those shoes told me the guy had a sense of humor and a higher level of investment in the election than just simply drinking the night away there after wards.

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If I were a guy, and some chick I didn't know from Adam, and whom lived a "distance away" from me, tried to friend me on FB, I would think she was looking for a piece of me. As in my "large" piece (when I think about myself being male, I also assume I would have a big penis - lol).

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if i were a guy, and some chick i didn't know from adam, and whom lived a "distance away" from me, tried to friend me on fb, i would think she was looking for a piece of me. As in my "large" piece (when i think about myself being male, i also assume i would have a big penis - lol).

Penis Envy Alert!!! :D

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UPDATE:

 

Hey, it's me, the Heathcliff of facebook...

 

 

Okay, well, he added me! I sent a message with it in the "add a message" bit, saying "hey you looked cool" ( I think that reads "i fancy you?", yeah? I don't know if he got that from that but hey..) i'm hoping he saw my photos and interests and thought "she looks a nice girl" etc. He probably didn't even look! :)

 

 

Anyway, I was disappointed to see that there had been no bloomin' facebook activity since Feb. Great. He hardly looks mr approachable- many of the "Hey! Thanks for the add! So, will we see you at Jo's party?" etc, comments are simply unanswered. I didn't fancy my chances much.

 

He clearly comes online a little, (he has minimal recent activity, plus he's seen on chat..) but he's not "on facebook" ( i met a good friend on facebook and we befriended each other through "likes", statuses, comments, wall posts etc. agreed to meet, swapped numbers, i now class him as a good friend. I hoped the same would happen here, but nada. Am i supposed to write "ahaha! you're so funny!" on a comment from dec 2009?)

 

So, I approached him on chat, under the guise of needing help. I asked him to explain something to me that seemed to be related to his work. I dived straight in with "Hey, i need a science bod to help me!" he said "of course! no probs, go ahead!" He tried to explain something to me, but stopped responding to me. Typed "Sorry". A new message flashed up where he apologised for any rudeness or looking a bit dim, but he had friends visiting with him and he was interrputed and couldnt type, but here was what i needed to know anyway.

 

i replied thanking him, not with any direct questions, but a lot of "hey, so you must have been pretty good at physics then to..." "Wow, you really have been...." etc etc. and ended with a great! thanks!

 

No reply. He read it, as i saw him online after i sent it, but then, he's not been on since for more than about 5 mins, then logged off. The guy works on a pc all day, so i don't think his idea of fun is going on a pc when he gets home...Also he has no relationship status displayed. Nor do i but, hey, at least i know i'm single...

 

Great.

 

Now, I'm faced with two options (or three?)

 

1. Wait for him to come on chat. Try to make conversation with him.

 

Bad point of this: I already spend way too much time thinking about mr smart, gorgeous, good job, fun, great taste in music, general all round knee trembler guy... and also, mr "x-factor" (the attribute, not the TV programme) so it'll be worse when he says "bugger off psycho bitch"..

 

 

 

2. Er... now I know this sounds a bit mad but.. Just be honest and direct. Say something like... er... Ok, look, i think you're gorgeous and ( god I can hardly type this i'm so embarrassed..)

 

Well just... y'know, say, er, the truth.... and say, ok, I'd like to meet up, I'm in the area soon, i don't know if you're free, sorry if this sounds direct, but... then add, if you don't want to respond you don't have to eeek! and scuttle away?

 

(Obviously, I hope i sound a bit cooler than this...don't worry, I'll get a sane person to read through it for me, if i send it..)

 

 

 

3. Do both, get him on chat, and then well, ask him if he'd ever like to meet?

 

It sounds crazy but, i've been in a position before, twice, where i have spent a lot of time, energy and fantasy on somebody for about 8 months, chatting, getting along fine, "oh you're such a funnygirl!" "i think you're attractive!" "oh you have great taste in music!" "oh your book recommendations are exquisite!", so, i think i'm game on, then i moved in and they had a gf, and another said no, he didnt see me like that. It was really humiliating. I don't want that to happen again! I'd like to **** or get off the pot to be honest...:)

 

Argh! What say you?

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It sounds like you're trying too hard. . . doesn't seem like much potential here at the moment to me.

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Hey, it's me, the Heathcliff of facebook..

 

 

It sounds crazy but, i've been in a position before, twice, where i have spent a lot of time, energy and fantasy on somebody for about 8 months,

 

It's not the Heathcliff - it's the ALEX. :(

 

GET A GRIP, girl!

 

Are you looking to have your third unrequited, obsessive fantasy about a stranger who lives far away?

 

Why are you doing this? Is it because it's safer to you?

 

The guy is clearly not interested, but now you're plotting more ways to engage with him. And you already know it's going to end badly, as you outlined, yet you're still doing it. lol

 

Do you date guys near you? Or just do this kind of thing a lot? Serious question...

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:) Hey, yeah, I've dated loads of guys near me, and I've come out of a 5 year relationship this year, it's just that I'm not very pro-active and I'm being encouraged by friends to be more so. It's not really working out, this i am aware of, but i just kind of almost wanted to know that my options were stupid, (if that made any sense...), so i could say "ok, i gave it a go, and i gave it a fair chance to make a move..."

 

It's highly unlikely that I AM going to do the above, i was just wondering last night if it would sound crazy to try and give it one last go, and those were the only things i could think of!

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