TaraMaiden Posted July 31, 2010 Posted July 31, 2010 He got very, very angry and slapped me in the face. Not that hard, but he slapped me and started pounding on the steering wheel. He called me all kinds of names and said I deserve to get the s+it kicked out of me. I probably deserved something for pushing his buttons, but I couldn't believe it. I can't tolerate that. No matter what it's not okay. I'm not okay with this. Oh My. No, no, no. My stomach actually lurched when I read your post. I was completely sickened. That's it. That's the complete and total deal-breaker. Never go back now. No way. That's it. He just completely smashed through all boundaries. That is way beyond unacceptable. This thing ends, now. Shut him off completely. That's abuse, I don't care what he wants to call it; 'anger, loss of control, I couldn't help it, you pushed me, you made me do it....' Forget it. He's shown his colours, and it's completely way off the scale. Please tell me, it ends now. Please.
Rifareal Posted July 31, 2010 Posted July 31, 2010 Wow you really love him even if he has a son still you were thre for him. I admire and envy your relationship as well. How i wish i have the same relationship as you are anyway i hope you fix your problems and i know you had been a lot of it with him. Goodluck.
cavedweller Posted July 31, 2010 Posted July 31, 2010 starry, A true story for you: Many, many years ago my mother fell in love and married a man.. At the time she had a full time job working in a factory. From the first day of their marriage he won't work...Whenever he did find a full or part-time job, he would only work at it for a month or two then quit.. They had little money and were living dirt poor.. After a year or so she could not take it anymore.. She left him, got a divorce, and moved on with her life..
silverfish Posted July 31, 2010 Posted July 31, 2010 I'm still trying to process what happened earlier tonight, but he and I got into an arguement when we went out tonight. I started getting uncomfortable and he said you're gonna ruin the night, lets go. So, he stormed off to the car and I followed behind him. I told him that I shouldn't have to change him. He said that he didn't do anything wrong tonight, that he was being a good boyfriend. I told him that things were starting to make sense in my mind, and I listed off some of the things. He got very, very angry and slapped me in the face. Not that hard, but he slapped me and started pounding on the steering wheel. He called me all kinds of names and said I deserve to get the s+it kicked out of me. I probably deserved something for pushing his buttons, but I couldn't believe it. I can't tolerate that. No matter what it's not okay. I'm not okay with this. Please don't do it anymore. That idiot compassion thing again....I did that for 15 years. He will keep on abusing you. Did you slap him when he pushed your buttons? Did you slap him when he betrayed you? No, you took him back. This was simply revenge on his part. You need to walk away. It's very hard to do that. Don't let him apologise or justify, just let him live with it now. It is never going to have a happy ending unless you carry on putting him before you, and that's what he wants. When you don't do that, he hits you.
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