Are men really intimidated by beautiful, intelligent, and/or successful women?

[Dblock10]

I've been seeing a lot of comments around LS lately about men being intimidated by beautiful, intelligent, and/or successful women. Who ARE these men?

 

For some reason, I've never been able to wrap my brain around the notion that a man wouldn't approach or ask out a woman because he was intimidated by her. Is this really true? Does this happen?

 

And if so, what are such women supposed to do? Just sit around waiting for the one man who has a pair??

 

apparently only confident jerks approach these types of woman hence why these types of women think men are jerks

[meerkat stew]

The whole thing is mostly a myth certain women use to rationalize bad personality traits and that they refuse to date men whom they feel are their socio-economic equals or below.

 

For example, "He was intimidated by me!" No, he just saw the number of $300 shoes in your closet and $500 a month hairstyle and it set off all kinds of "high maintenance" alerts.

 

I have known professional women who claim to get "hives" from riding in a Toyota (not mine, a repair shop lender while her car was being fixed).

 

Have had them start crying and screaming at the airport because their car had bird crap on it after being parked for an extended period while they were on a business trip. Yeah, intimidation alright.

 

Have had them pitch fits at staff of hotels, restaurants whatever when they didn't feel their princess ass was being kissed enough or their infinitely complex special order wasn't executed perfectly by the chef.

 

Have had them send back $100 wine that had nothing at all wrong with it (and despite the fact that I NEVER EVER talk about it, I know more about wine and cuisine than they do or ever will).

 

Have had them endlessly pre-introduce people to me via their income and place in the social register rather than just as a cool person to meet.

 

Have had them become embarrassed to be with me because I sometimes fib about what I actually do for a living and make up preposterous professions. Little do they realize the "hot-shot/blueblood" men and women they introduce me to find this hilarious and they end up befriending me well before they do the other stuffed shirts.

 

The above tend to be the "trappings of success" I've experienced with lots of successful professional women. The feeling I have about those types is not what I'd call "intimidation."

[tami-chan]

Omg..Stew, is this why you dumped me cuz I like beautiful, expensive shoes? and,,,ugh..it was not my fault that I developed hives driving that loaner Toyota Corolla-seriously, the polyester upholstery was just eeeeewww!

[Engadget]

The whole thing is mostly a myth certain women use to rationalize bad personality traits and that they refuse to date men whom they feel are their socio-economic equals or below.

 

For example, "He was intimidated by me!" No, he just saw the number of $300 shoes in your closet and $500 a month hairstyle and it set off all kinds of "high maintenance" alerts.

 

I have known professional women who claim to get "hives" from riding in a Toyota (not mine, a repair shop lender while her car was being fixed).

 

Have had them start crying and screaming at the airport because their car had bird crap on it after being parked for an extended period while they were on a business trip. Yeah, intimidation alright.

 

Have had them pitch fits at staff of hotels, restaurants whatever when they didn't feel their princess ass was being kissed enough or their infinitely complex special order wasn't executed perfectly by the chef.

 

Have had them send back $100 wine that had nothing at all wrong with it (and despite the fact that I NEVER EVER talk about it, I know more about wine and cuisine than they do or ever will).

 

Have had them endlessly pre-introduce people to me via their income and place in the social register rather than just as a cool person to meet.

 

Have had them become embarrassed to be with me because I sometimes fib about what I actually do for a living and make up preposterous professions. Little do they realize the "hot-shot/blueblood" men and women they introduce me to find this hilarious and they end up befriending me well before they do the other stuffed shirts.

 

The above tend to be the "trappings of success" I've experienced with lots of successful professional women. The feeling I have about those types is not what I'd call "intimidation."

 

Lock this thread and give this man the Nobel Peace Prize.

[meerkat stew]

Omg..Stew, is this why you dumped me cuz I like beautiful, expensive shoes? and,,,ugh..it was not my fault that I developed hives driving that loaner Toyota Corolla-seriously, the polyester upholstery was just eeeeewww!

 

Never dumped you, just withdrew in anguish over my own shortcomings

 

Certain women of quality are allowed to have lots of expensive shoes and even gripe about toyotas, it's only when those quirks become the raison d etre that they become obnoxious

 

incidentally, polyester has its advantages in certain circumstance.

[meerkat stew]

Lock this thread and give this man the Nobel Peace Prize.

 

will stomp the terra firma with you any day in honor of your avatar

[tami-chan]

Never dumped you, just withdrew in anguish over my own shortcomings

 

Certain women of quality are allowed to have lots of expensive shoes and even gripe about toyotas, it's only when those quirks become the raison d etre that they become obnoxious

 

What a relief!!! I can now move on...thank you!

 

incidentally, polyester has its advantages in certain circumstance.

 

oh? !!!!

[meerkat stew]

What a relief!!! I can now move on...

 

It seems you did, get DC to post on here, I can then be in the shrink role!

[tami-chan]

It seems you did, get DC to post on here, I can then be in the shrink role!

 

 

:lmao: ah no...we don't want him to realize I am not worthy~ LOL!!!

[meerkat stew]

:lmao: ah no...we don't want him to realize I am not worthy~ LOL!!!

 

Haha, hold -his- feet to the fire, you are supremely worthy, don't ever forget it

[Woggle]

Just saw Dr. Phil and this topic was brought up. Men are not intimidated by women. If you are not getting dates, and you are using this as an excuse - not the case. you could be making them run for the hills if you come off as thinking you are "all that."

Sorry, just going by the expert on Dr. Phil.

No, hon, they're not intimidated by you, even if you are a lawyer. They are turned off by your personality most likely. (Again, Dr. Phil Show.)

 

I don't like Dr Phil but this is true. This whole idea that men are scared of independent and strong is just to cover the fact that many women just have horrible attitudes and personalities. Most men do not want a relationship to be a constant battle and when women treat it as such we want to run.

[zengirl]

I don't like Dr Phil but this is true. This whole idea that men are scared of independent and strong is just to cover the fact that many women just have horrible attitudes and personalities. Most men do not want a relationship to be a constant battle and when women treat it as such we want to run.

 

Woggle, for once I agree 100%. And I hate Dr. Phil, and you and I rarely agree on anything!

 

When women think general populations of men (or other women) are put off because they're too smart or pretty, it's generally because they are difficult. Not because they're too awesome. That's not to say there aren't a few insecure individuals who don't like other folks. I've found, for example, many unhappy people can't stand to be around really happy people, but those happy people have loads of success with other happy people and don't resort to saying, "I just intimidate everybody!"

[Woggle]

Also many women who claim that all men are afraid of strong women are just flat out misandrists. You say good morning to them and they are ready to tear your head off then when men ignore them or bite back they swear it is because they are such a strong woman.

[zengirl]

Also many women who claim that all men are afraid of strong women are just flat out misandrists. You say good morning to them and they are ready to tear your head off then when men ignore them or bite back they swear it is because they are such a strong woman.

 

I'm actually really glad you're using that word ("misandrists") rather than confusing it with feminists, as yes, those women are neither strong, nor feminist. They are just jerks. Anyone who claims an entire gender is "afraid" of some type of person (beyond, like, murderers or something) is a jerk. And once again, I agree. Plenty of men dig strong women, so long as they aren't domineering/mean/bitchy/etc. (I mean, really, who likes that stuff, male or female?)

[Woggle]

I'm actually really glad you're using that word ("misandrists") rather than confusing it with feminists, as yes, those women are neither strong, nor feminist. They are just jerks. Anyone who claims an entire gender is "afraid" of some type of person (beyond, like, murderers or something) is a jerk. And once again, I agree. Plenty of men dig strong women, so long as they aren't domineering/mean/bitchy/etc. (I mean, really, who likes that stuff, male or female?)

 

Many misandrists hide behind the word feminist but there is a difference between the two.

[zengirl]

Many misandrists hide behind the word feminist but there is a difference between the two.

 

Well, people hide behind all sorts of words. Doesn't make the words bad. I know lots of bigots and racists who hide behind the word "Traditional," it doesn't make tradition bad. It just makes them liars.

[Engadget]

will stomp the terra firma with you any day in honor of your avatar

 

Preferably on many types of narcotics!

 

I love strong women, gives me a challenge. I always have better luck with a girl who's got balls (odd term, but hey) than a girl who's what I call the "damsel in distress". My last girlfriend was a BITCH to me when we first met, and that was like a tractor beam that pulled me right to her. It makes me more persistent and willing to pursue things than a girl who's shy and quiet.

 

So I don't fear those types of women. As meerkat demonstrated those type of women are ugh. High maintenance, whiny "I'm better than you" types don't sit well with me. No respect, I'm gone.

[tami-chan]

ahhh...so "nice men" and "nice women" are less attractive? and the game continues....

[mr.dream merchant]

Not at all. Those are actually the type of women I prefer. It's so sexy.

[Sphere]

I'm not intimidated by women or men for that matter. A beautiful, intelligent and successful woman is what every man should want in a girlfriend coupled with modesty and a thoroughly decent character/personality and preferably one who isn't a staunch feminist. If she is a feminist who doesn't stop bleating on about how she feels society doesn't appreciate her or is limiting her rights, then I'm grabbing her by her locks and throwing her backside onto the streets. (literally speaking, of course).

[tami-chan]

I.... then I'm grabbing her by her locks and throwing her backside onto the streets. (literally speaking, of course).

 

Really. That's a bit violent, don't you think?

[mr.dream merchant]

Really. That's a bit violent, don't you think?

 

If she's a bitch....nah, it's not. Lol, jk. Bitches suck though :S

[Sphere]

Really. That's a bit violent, don't you think?

 

Not at all, it appears my dry and somewhat sadistic sense of humour isn't received too well with the American brigade. I wouldn't do such a thing to a woman, if anything it is likely to be the other way around.

[tami-chan]

Not at all, it appears my dry and somewhat sadistic sense of humour isn't received too well with the American brigade. I wouldn't do such a thing to a woman, if anything it is likely to be the other way around.

 

LOL!!!! well...your qualifier, "LITERALLY SPEAKING, of course" threw me off.... Usually , when someone states he is going "to throw someone to the streets", we take is as a "figurative statement", as in: "figuratively speaking":p. So when you had to qualify your statement with the "literally speaking"-it appears you meant to do what you said even though it was after all an empty threat.

Edited August 8, 2010 by tami-chan